Potty Training Disaster!!!!!!

I know you don't want to hear this. But She's not ready. She may get all the boxes checked on the "is your child ready for the potty?" List. But given the behavior you have described...she's not ready yet. Don't pressure her, forget the timer, and the reminders. You are not potty TRAINING her. She is Potty LEARNING. She has to learn the signs and signals that it's time to go potty, she can't do that if you are forcing the issue. It took over a year for me to figure this out with my oldest child. Once I threw up my hands and let him go it wasn't too long (maybe 2months) before he suddenly realized when he had to go potty. He was 3yrs and 4months old.

This is the last thing you want to hear believe me, I asked mamasource about this samething a few months back, but she isn't ready phyically yet, mentally maybe alittle. Don't get discouraged you are on the right path, but you might need to back off for a little while don't make it such a big deal. I found myself doing the same thing with my son asking every few minutes and him telling me "no pee pee is coming out yet" then 5 minutes later he was standing in a puddle. My son hated being wet so when he would go and be like no big deal change me and clean me up I would say "no" now this is what it feels like to be wet and dirty and he didn't like that at all! I never made him sit in it or anything just when he peed or pooped I have clean underwear in one hand while I tried to make him understand the icky feeling, it worked for me after A LOT of accidents. I used the thick training pants from JC Pennys (you can get them anywhere), pull ups will only confuse them, my girlfriend is going through this right now with her 4 year old (she put him in them at night). I started with those training pants and then worked up to letting him pick out his underwear with his favorite characters on them he didn't like to get his favorite characters dirty. I hope this helps and I wish you lots of luck with little headache %)

I know how you feel..I asked a similar question on here a few weeks ago..I was at my wits end.My daughter turned three in February and I could not handle the diapers anymore..She would go on the potty but it was sparatic..I eventually said that I did not have any more diapers her size and put her in underwear..It has been over a week now and she is doing fantastic..She is still a little scared to poo in the potty.But when she does we do everything but eat it :) But I truly believe that they have to be ready..Maybe your daughter just is not ready..I was like you "frazzled". I thought what the heck is wrong with my kid.My oldest daughter was potty trained at two..I even took Ashley to the doctors thinking there was something wrong..There wasn't she just was not ready.When all I said was there is no diapers your size here anymore and she said ok I wear big girl undies, I thought if that is all it took why did I not say that earlier..ARGHH!!! HAHA Kids are very stubborn and do it on there time..You might want to just give up for a little while.Pushing her is only going to make her not want to..

S.,
Well, after doing this with 2girls and 2 boys...my girls were easy and boys were easier... the girls..i put a bowl of m&m's on the back of the toilet seat and if they "pottied" they got one and "poopied" they got 2 .... the boys i put fruit loops in the water and they "aimed" lol they loved it... of course they made themselves go potty but thats ok too..... no diapers day or night..... and they were all totally trained by 18 months so this will help i hope

S.,

I so know what you are going through & how frustrating it can be. I am going through the same thing with my son. One idea I got from his teacher was to take him to the dollar store & let him pick out a bunch of toys/candy-whatever he wanted. I put all of his "prizes" in a basket in the bathroom and left it. I showed him where it was at-and after that I didn't mention it all-I left it up to him. If he wanted one of his prizes, he was to go potty. Oh-he didn't get a prize for "trying" either, he actually had to go. Maybe this will work for your little girl.

How do you know for sure she's ready? It sounds to me like you might need to dial in back for a bit, and wait for her to be a bit more ready. Has she ever peed on the potty? If not, she may just be afraid of using the potty. The way we dealt with this is we waited until our son really had to go, and then I sat in the bathroom with him for over a half hour waiting for him to go. I told him, point blank that he was not getting up until he peed on the potty. He got quite cranky after a bit. But, when he finally did it, I made such a big deal about it that he was eager to go on the potty after that.lol Also, when you make your daughter clean herself up, the first step should be to make her go sit on the potty anyway, "just to make sure there no more in there." And if a change of clothes doesn't bother her, then maybe you should make her take a quick bath each time too. That could cut into valuable play time, and she might be a bit more ready to take the small break to go, than to take the long break to take a bath a few times a day. Also, with the timer method, do you make her get up and try to go every time the timer goes off? Or do you just ask her? It might be a good idea to make her go try each time the timer goes off. We would start by setting ours for every hour. After two hours(because we knew that was his critical time frame), we would switch to 15 minutes, then ten minutes, then five minutes. And keep it at every five minutes until he goes. All of these breaks in the playtime eventually gave him a message than withholding the pee was just no fun at all.