Potty Training Dilemma--What Is the Deal?

Whatever you do, DO NOT go back to pull ups!!! She will get it eventually, especially if she is in underwear full time. SHe won't like being wet. With summer coming up, put her in dresses and no underwear when you let her play outside, so if she pees, she won't be constantly soiling her underwear. In many other countries, they potty train by letting their kids run naked. That isn't always an option in our culture, but I have a friend who had success with her daughter and the no-underwear-dress thing while in their own yard. Good luck.

At the age your daughter is she needs to be reminded still all the time. Every hour is my suggestion, it is very time consuming but it doesn't have to be a big deal. I would look at the clock at the start of the morning in underwear and then every hour would take my kids potty. Potty training sometimes takes a while but it is so important not to make it a stressful time for either one of you. If you act nonchalant then it makes the process much easier and kids will feed off your frustration even if you think that they don't know that you are frustrated. Good luck and keep going this to will pass and get better : )

You are going to have to keep reminding her, there is no other way around it. You will slowly start to see her doing it on her own, but even at that point I still go in with them. Once they are doing it good on their own, I ease up. It could be a week, it could be a month, this is one of those things that can be slow going, to me potty trained means that they are going potty on the potty, even when I am the one who still has to remind them. They get so distracted, that they forget to watch for the cues, especially in the beginning, so just keep walking her in there, she'll get it in her own in time!

With our daughter, we made it a group effort. At this age, she got distracted by a lot of things that were far more interesting and would hold off going by herself and always had an accident.

So, as much of a pain as this is, I would always go with her and encourage her. I also would tell her to go and take her potty frequently throughout the day. Its a hassle, but she needed the reminder and the presence of a parent to enforce the behavior until she really got it.

When she had an accident, we'd tell her she had an accident. We wouldn't shame her, but we'd tell her she needed to go in the potty. Then we'd make her clean it up, change herself into something dry,and put her wet or dirty cloths into the wash.

When she was running to the bathroom regularly on her own, we gradually stopped going in there with her and we gradually stopped asking or telling her to go.

She still has the occasional accident if there is something really new or exciting going on, but she did get the hang of it.

As she became more aware of things and really understood her body signals, she came to hate wetting herself or soiling her underpants. It takes some practice and some recognition on her part though.

Keep working with your daughter. She'll get it.