Potty Training-didn't Plan for This One

is there a reward system in place for when he USES the potty CORRECTLY? For my son we have a sticker chart ... when he DOES something he gets one but if he does both he gets two... he has delays and communication is a problem along with sensory (does not always know he has to pee/poo) so if he TELLS us and then does what he said he needed to do he gets an extra one then for every 5 stickers he gets a mailbox treat and that is something like a cheap party favor type item that lasts for a day. Maybe if there was something in it for him since he does not care at this point it will help.

A lot of little boys dont care that much. Thats why I gave an M and M every time he used the bathroom not his underpants.

He will get there on his own. Just try to be patient (easier said than done-i know). it could be part of the 3 year old defiance where he sees he is getting a rise out of you by going in his pants. My son didn't go in his underwear but he would ask to put a pull-up on when he had to poop and would then go in the corner. I just kept encouraging him to go without pushing him too much. Then he decided one day it was time and that was it. Hang in there mama!

For him 'I have to...' means 'I went...' you have to start changing the verbage once he has already gone, and sit him on the potty even if he's already does his biz in his undies. Remember you're training a behavior...

I question whether your son is truly ready to succeed yet. Sounds like he's getting close, but there's still an emotional component that's not developed enough.

Here's one of several sites that gives some great "readiness" checklists, as well as every tip you can imagine about different training approaches: http://www.parentingscience.com/toilet-training-readiness...

And here's another one that differentiates between 'training' and 'larning,' an extremely valuable distinction: http://www.betterkidcare.psu.edu/AngelUnits/OneHour/Toile...