Potty Training AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! :)

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If you've tried "all sorts of ways," you might be trying too hard. Kids need free rein to internalize potty training and make it their own, and not mommy's. Kids want to train when they are ready, just like they want to walk or talk when they are ready, and parents can force that to a point, but it won't be quite the same thing as training.

Have you talked to your daughter about what she really wants, and whether there's anything bothering her about using the potty at home? You might be surprised at what's going on in her clever little head. She may even suggest a solution.

Have you talked to the daycare teacher(s) about their techniques? If they seem to be the same thing you are doing, I would suggest you tell your daughter that you can see she's growing up into a big girl, and you trust her to tell you when she's really ready. I wouldn't advise giving rewards (there's a lot of research showing why this is very likely to backfire), but perhaps promise a big-girl party when she's finally arrived.

Good luck. She sounds like she's almost there. Trust the process, and give her some emotional space. That really does work for lots of moms.

Is she just going in her panties, or are you putting diapers on her? I would definitely get rid of all diapers in the house, and if necessary, have her run around in her panties (or bare bottom). Remind her constantly that she needs to use the potty. I think potty training is a lot like kids learning to use a fork and spoon - it is a skill that they must be taught, and there is an expectation of certain behavior from them. She should not have the choice NOT to go in the potty. You may have to bring her there every 20 or 30 minutes all day long when she's at home, if that's what it takes to reinforce your expectation. I would just be very matter of fact about it: "It's 9:30! Time to use the potty now!" and then "Oh look, 10:00, time to go to the potty!" and repeat as necessary alllll day long. Don't let it be a power struggle or ask "Do you want to use the potty?" because then she has the choice of saying no. By all means, do not go the route of bribery - that's a slippery slope. In potty training as in everything else, you just have to be a good, strong leader for her and set forth your expectations, then set her up for success in achieving the goals.

try a sticker chart and after so many times of pottying in the potty she gets a treat. that is working wonders for my 3 year old

My friend's son was exactly like that.
But he was older.
Don't worry. She will get it.
Now... if she is NOT pooping... I would worry more about that instead, because it can cause constipation, and encopresis... and it is not healthy to "withhold" pooping. Bulging bowels etc.

Don't pressure. Don't punish. She will get it.
Again, my friend's son was like that. He got it, all on his own. Just like that.
Your daughter is real young... I would not worry about it.

next, there is no "perfect" potty trained child. They all will have accidents, even when older. Even if they know how.

all the best,
Susan

I have the perfect solution because we were in exactly the same boat. There's a book by Teri Crane about potty training your kid in 1 day. It's based on having a potty party. The minute my daughter saw that her new doll got a sticker and a treat for making pee pee on the potty, she wanted panties immediately and has never looked back. She had maybe 1 accident a day for 4-5 days while we learned to put a potty on every floor of our house where she plays. We gave her a prize every time pooped for about 2 or 3 weeks and now she poops with no problem. She gradually lost interest in the prizes and treats by herself, but kept using the potty. We still praise her lavishly and demand that any company praise her too, and that seems to be enough. I put a pull-up on her for bedtime, which she only wets maybe once a week, and I let her nap in panties because she doesn't pee during her naps. I also got a water-proof dog pad for the sofa which I nervously made her sit on, but after a week we got rid of it. Good luck!

You've gotten some great answers and I would like to add to them. I agree all diapers/pull ups have to go. I would then block off the carpeted parts of the house to her and keep her in the kitchen until she starts using the potty at home. This is not a punishment, just matter of factly let her know that this is the new rule. She can have access to some of her toys, but not her favorite ones. She also won't have access to anything that's in the carpeted room--TV, videos, etc. If she makes a mess involve her in cleaning it up. Ask her every so often (1/2 hour to an hour) if she has to go but don't make a big deal out of it. Go about your business as usual. She is in charge of when and whether she goes potty. When she gets tired of not being able to do what she wants, she'll again be potty-trained at home.

It's a POTTY PARTY at daycare! LOL She's only 2.5 Ditch all diapers/pullups at home if you haven't already. Remind her every half hour to try. Good luck!

Are you allowing her diapers or pull ups at home? If so, stop and make her wear undies even if she pees in them. Hopefully that will help her shape up.

Maybe at daycare they have the little potty's and it is easier for your daughter to go there. We have those seat covers for our big potty so my daughter does not fall in and a step stool. It makes all the difference for her. Also at daycare are they getting exciting for her when she goes. Maybe you should start sticker rewards or something like that and then she will be excited to go. After say 20 or so stickers, then maybe she can get a small toy. Just a thought. Those rewards really work for my daughter and she is almost 5. Good luck!