Potty Training - Bronx,NY

Hi O.

It's not unsual at all for her to not want to go to the potty at daycare. I would suggest keeping up with what you are doing at home, be consistent, and eventually she will be ready. I have 3 daughters, and each was very different with potty training. They each will be ready at their own time.

Hope that helped a bit.

PS The average age to start potty training is around 27 months, so technically speaking, your daughter is doing great! :)

I saw the response about public bathrooms. I just wanted to add, that I keep a potty in my mini-van. Before we go into a store, or before we go home, whatever's necessary, my daughter, and/or any of the other toddler's we're with, use it. I usually find a patch of grass or roadside weeds to dump it. I have scented trash bags from a dollar store, to throw away any toilet paper or solids, the same as I would do with a diaper. It has worked great for us !!
I also agree with going straight to underwear. You just have to be ready with lots of clothes to change into, and enforce a schedule for yourself to ask if they need to go. Pull ups are great when kids won't lay down for a diaper change anymore, but they still fell like and do the same job as a diaper. JCPenney has a great waterproof matress pad. I think they need to feel the embarrassment, discomfort and all that's involved in an accident. They need to develop through it, and learn that it's not accepted to wear diapers any longer, or have accidents. I think a bit of dissapointment from the parent is OK...but my Mom always told be to not say "shame" on you!! Just telling them it's too messy and they need to tell someone they need to go. If they're ready they will get it.

My son did the same thing. He went to classes once a week and he would hold it until I got there to pick him up. (The class was only an hour and 1/2, so it wasnt that long of a wait.) I determined it was because he was use to using the potty with either myself or my husband. And he didnt understand that its okay for him to use the potty without us and with another adult.
SO, one of the teachers and I took him to the potty together. And once in there, I told him it was okay he could go with just the teacher and I walked out.
After that experience of him going with the teacher and mom telling him it was okay, he hasnt had an issue sense.
Good Luck!

Hi O.,

I think that she might not feel"safe" on the daycare potty.. Just put her in a pull up and tell her it's only for school.

The truth of the matter is that occasional use of pull ups really helped me when we were out somewhere.. (Just TRY to find a clean gas station toilet when your toddler is screaming that she has to go NOW from the back seat! LOL)

My girls are now 13 and 17, and it took some time before they were able to go potty anywhere but home.. Both were totally over it before the age of 4.. My advice is to be patient. If you let her take her own time, she'll accomplish it in her own way.

Hi O.,
Trust me things will start to change as she matures. This is a commom peoblem that all moms gp through..

N.

My son is 3 and a half and only about a week ago has stopped having accidents at school. I Anything I did didn't stop it until recently taking away staying for lunch at school. Which he loves. however he is 3 1/2 a huge difference. Don't push it she is only 2 1/2. It's probably b/c she isn't comfortable enough with the whole process. Just let her be and she will come around. SHe is still new to it.