Potty Training - Merrimack,NH

it is a VERY traumatic time for the child - a lot easier for you. But do not worry - it will work out. You have to be understanding and sympathetic. If she does not want the potty then that is OK. Just say that OK well if she needs it later it is there. Success with my 3 year old son was letting him run around the back yard, naked on a hot cloudy day. He came to me and said he wanted to do a pee. I said OK - here is the potty. He sat on it and said "I can't go". I said OK don't worry - wait til later. 10 mins later he sat on the potty. He peed near a pint. So it is happening. It works faster if you leave the diaper off. The diaper ends up as a sgnal to pee and poo. His mother does it through bribery (not a good idea IMO) - I do it through communication and a relaxed attitude.

Problem is as I see it is that too many parents are too bossy. Do you like it if you are bossed around? You do not need to answer - I know the answer

Hey Rach! Wow, seems like no easy answer. With T we ditched the diapers and did the training undies from Target too and ordered some Scottie Potty trainers (there's a girl version- PottyPatty.com) for naps. Diapers were for nights only (and still). But there were MANY accidents between then and now. I also had him very involved with every time I used the bathroom. I would take him in with me and let him hear me pee and sometimes even poop. I know that sounds gross, but it gave him the connection of what he was supposed to be doing and it was only for about 6 times he had to witness. Then when I was done he would try and get to flush. She's so cognitive, I'm sure she just needs one little thing to pull it together for her. The thing I think really did it for him though was my sister gave me a musical potty that he really loved using and had a sequence that needed to be followed- sit on seat/ pee / and flush sound- all with songs and positive encouragement at each step . Google "Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Potty". Still, we had weeks of naked time and a potty in the living room, and lots of pee on the floor! Good times....

I don't think you should use diapers they get confused. Once you introduce her to the potty you have to be consistent with your training. She has the concept now you have to impose punishment when she urinates on herself.

i'd say try it.... i'd go right to underwear though. i found that using a pull up during training with my daughter, was just like a diaper, and she always went in them.

Don't put the diaper on her, don't hide the diapers, you are in charge not her, just don't use them. You are not supposed to wait for kids to show an interest in potty training, mu husband and i decided before I was ever pregnant that we would not have any 2 year olds in diapers and we didn't, our sons were potty trained at 19 and 21 months and pour daughter was 22 months, nights and naps included. I would not use the word aggressive, but reward and Discipline. J.

Hey there! this is the same story as our own right now, i have a 2.5 year old beautiful little girlie who shows interest in the potty, but still hasnt really used it. I feel like our plan back fired early on, when she was quite young we had her using the potty and then there were a few crying sessions related to it, and well, i believe that we are paying the price now and she got a little scared off. I feel as a parent its really important to honor your childs choices and timing...if she is showing interest BUT not quite ready, dont push it. Talking about it alot, making games with it is helpful...i believe there will be a day when she just decides its time. Then there can be a party to honor her! anyways, i am always open to suggestions as well from other mamas, BUT as a few other mamas said...i am right there with you showing support.
green blessings

I have had a lot of experience with potty training after running a preschool for many years. So many parents introduce potty training very early on and it is just a novelty to some children . Sometimes they use it and sometimes they just don't care. It has been my personal experience that it just drags out the process. I believe 2 1/2 is the ideal age for potty training, but no all children feel the same way. Has she actually used the potty? Does she know how to use the potty independently for example can she dress and undress herself? I would lay off for a few weeks, and then just do it (as long as she can use the potty) Get cloth training underwear (target carries them) they are very thick to help prevent messes. And just do it. Underwear all day, expect accidents do not make a big deal of it just clean her up and go about you business. Do not bug her just say okay its time to use the potty every hour or so. I run summer camp at my preschool and my 2 1/2 year old class has begun potty training 3 weeks ago. We usually work with 4 children at a time (as long as parents are doing so at home) and out of the 16 children we have already been successful with more then half of the children. When you are consistent and they are ready it should only take a few days. When they are not ready and you go back and forth with diapers it can take FOREVER and it is very confusing to the children. We do not use pull-ups, and diapers are only an option for nap or bedtime. It has always worked for me. In your situation I would lay off for a few weeks, see if she asks where the potty has gone. Don't talk about it anymore, unless she asks you. If she does then you know she is ready. (pushing her right now is only going to delay it) and then go full force. I had a mother who started very young 16 months she came to school after she went to the potty a few times at home. The first day the little girl had 6 accidents, the second day she held her urine for 6 hours. The mom told us she was potty trained her and we undid what she did. I told her home and school were two different things and she wasn't comfortable or ready yet at school. She laid off and tried again at 18 months with no luck, same result. After many many talks, and trust me she was not happy, I told her I wasn't going to push her until we went to the 2 1/2 year old group. We moved her on June 28, and on June 29th she used the potty and three days later she had her first dry day. Sometimes trying too early can work in the reverse. Potty training and eating are two things we just can't control, they have all the control. LOL!! Just my experience and my opinion. Good luck!!

Up until 3 weeks ago that was my daughter exactly!! She is also 2 and a half and did all of those things and I wondered if she would ever use the potty. Not that they have to at this age, I have heard 3 is a great time to potty train. It depends on the child. Well, our daycare provider suggested we train my daughter and another little boy at daycare at the same time. We used padded underpants (you can buy in 3-packs at Target) and the combination of training with a peer and the underpants seemed to do the trick... or she was just ready. Keep offering, without pressuring, and she will get there!!

This sounds exactly like my two and a half year old daughter. I have no idea what to do, I am opting to wait a bit and see if she will just start doing it herself. Its very frustrating because I know that she can hold it, and I also know that she understands the concept. I feel your frustration.

I think different things work with different kids. I disagree with the person who said she is not in charge, you are. Yes, you are in charge of whether or not she has diapers to use but ultimately pottying is one of the few things the kids can control. And punishment is a very bad idea in re: to potty accidents. I think every single expert on child development shares that opinion. Having the child participate in cleaning up accidents (without shaming or blaming) can be helpful but no punishment.

My DD did the same thing. She was interested at some points, would tell me she'd gone but hadn't, ask for a diaper when she had to go, etc. I don't think she got it at all.One day my DH came home with pullups and I was not happy since I think those just confuse them. They were useless for training with DD. We bought underwear that DD wanted, explained that to wear those she actually had to use the potty. She was reliably going first thing and before bed and then she stopped. I explained that when these diapers we had were gone that we were not going to buy anymore. She disagreed strongly. But a week later she told me that when the diapers were gone we weren't buying anymore and that day asked if she could have her potty in front of the tv. I put it there that day and that was it for the diapers. She's been wearing underwear since then with only 1 or 2 partial accidents on the way to the potty.

DD was a late learner. So for us what worked was totally laying off all pressure, leaving it up to DD but giving a time limit she could live with. Telling her no more diapers in a week or 2 gave her time to get there herself. But she would not do it before she was ready eventhough everyone we knew potty learned LONG before DD, she didn't care. I understand bribery works for a lot of kids too (we don't use that so I didn't want to set a precedent).