Potty Training - Theodore,AL

Only suggestion I can make is let her pick out the big girl panties she wants and let her wear them. Then if she wets them then you let her know that big girls go potty in the toliet and remind her that she wants to be mommy and daddy's big girl. so far this has been working for us with our 2 yr old son, and when he wants to show us that he is a big boy he wears cloth otherwise he is in a pull up. But we just keep incuragging him to be our big boy and we'll interrupt him during play and remind him that it's time to go. I have also seen the potty watch, that helps kids since you can set it for 30, 60 or 90 mins. Good luck

I bribed my son and do the same to my almost 3 year old daughter. I bought boy pull-ups and told her when she started going potty in the toilet, she could have big girl undies that she picked out (princess ones) ... if she pees in the toilet, she gets 1 Oreo or peanut m&m, if she poops, she gets 2 ... it works, but just be patient.

With my son I what I did was go straight to underwear (during the day). No pull-ups, I think they are confusing to them.
We practiced a lot of patience, and had lots of underwear to use. Consistency is key and I think you said you are doing that so that is good. Just keep at it, some kids just will do it in their own time. My son is 3 1/2 and he is fully trained even at night. Yes, we do have the occasional accident, but that is expected with kids. If they don't want to do it, they won't.
Find what works for you. Charts, bribing, rewards, praise. The only thing that really worked with my son was the positive praise and rewards if he did good while going out somewhere. Don't get upset if there is an accident, and if they don't want to do it, tell them thats ok we can try again tomorrow.

Good luck!

I agree with Rachel, when you start training switch over to panties. I used the pull-ups for a while and noticed she had more problems with consistency. When I completely eliminated pull-ups, there were many days following of accidents but then she leveled out. I also did not use pull-ups when away from home, just make sure to have her use the potty before you leave and bring extra clothes.
Patience is needed as they will have accidents, but they are less as they get older. My daugher, 4 1/2 yrs old and trained for 2 yrs, had one last week. She was at a party and did not want to miss out. It was her first accident for a long time, but these things happen sometime with little kids.

She is not ready... meaning she is still in the process of learning pottying.

Being ready is also an internal thing and a biological thing which also involves the myelin nerve sheath development and the child being able to recognize they have to do pee/poop.

Just keep in mind.. that potty training takes time... even months, to FULLY master. It takes patience and the more pushed they are the more they will NOT and it will give them hang-ups and it will turn into a battle.
AND a child WILL still have lapses or regressions or strikes or pee/poop accidents. ALL normal. It is not an either/or type of thing.

Save all the buying of potty accessories, and wait until she is ready. All you need is a potty chair. And perhaps later when she reaches that point, underwear, which this is a good one:
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UNTIL the child can go or be in an actual "underwear." The Gerber "training" underwear is slightly padded inside... to help with the process. Both my kids used these, and my friend's preschool recommends it. It is great.

Again, when a child is ready, then it will be less of a battle. I never used pull-ups. To me they are useless. I just had my kids in diapers, or naked... and when they needed to pee, I or they simply took off their diaper. And pull-ups are more expensive.

Also, try putting a potty chair where ever she is... and keep it nearby. That way, they get used to it and it is quick to get to.

Potty training is a process, in 3 or 4 stages:
1) peeing in toilet and mastering that.
2) pooping in toilet and mastering that
3) being able to tell you when THEY need to pee or poop, then being able to hold it long enough to go to the toilet on their own... with you assisting. AND then learning how to "wipe" all on their own. Which a child wiping poop themselves, their own bum.. can take even until 4 years old to do... due to motor skills and coordination ability.
4) Night-time "dryness" which is a whole other SEPARATE process in and of itself. Remember: that night-time dryness takes UNTIL even 7 years old. And this is NORMAL and per our Pediatrician. AND... a child will still have pee accidents at night and/or get wet. So accidents does NOT mean the child has "failed" at potty training. It is just normal biological ability and development.
**Note: all of these "stages" will NOT occur at the same time nor should it be expected to.... they occur separately from each other... as one step is fully attained, then the next.

My son, who is now 3.5 years old, was not ready for potty "training" although he DID know and have all the signs. Then one day, on his own, he said he had to pee then took himself to the potty chair AND pee'd. On his own. Without our forcing it... but we always left the potty chair out and around... just in case. He has had no battles about it... and is comfortable about it without pressure. AND we did NOT have to resort to treats/rewards/bribes or anything. Just our praise and a high-five makes him happy.
Because HE was ready and comfortable about it... by his timeline. NOW... is when I use the Gerber padded "underwear" with him, AND he is happy to wear it. Now. I went by "his" cues.

But yes, some days he is fine all day going to the toilet. And other days he does not. He is processing the process. He is not COMPLETELY error free yet. But any child, even older, will still have some accidents.
Once she starts school... those kids have pee accidents in school too. NORMAL. And the Teacher usually has the parents bring in an extra set of clothing for each child to keep in the cubby. Because even through Kindergarten, kids STILL have pee accidents... even though yes, they are toilet trained.

All the best,
Susan

My quick suggestion would be to take her to potty at set intervals, especially on the days you already know are the accident days. Do not ask her if she needs to go, just tell her kindly but frankly it's time to make potty. If accidents continue, do not fuss but have her help you clean up. Then if it continues, when time to change clothes, do remove the wets but tell her she has to redress, of course give her the clothes to do so. Just stay calm and loving but voice that "mommy does like having to clean up and that if she messes she has to help." After you have been taking her at set intervals and she is trained again and the the toy-playing-forget-to-potty accidents restart, tell her " you have to clean your own mess." Give her a towel, etc, non chemicals...just let her dry it up. It will not be perfect, BUT do NOT help her. Of course after she is finished, go behind her and do the thorough job. And no matter what: whatever toy she was preoccupied with that caused your retrained child to forget to make it to the potty, take it away for the rest of that day. Explain nicely to her that if you do not go potty because you are playing with your toys then you loose that toy. Do give it back on the next day. Now these are all the consequences, but up the rewards for everytime she tells you and goes.... make a big deal, get excited, clap, give m&ms, annouce what a big girl she is.... do them all to make her proud of herself. Let her know you are proud. This over the top reward for good and loving consequence for the accidents is sure to turn things around for the better. Now the hardest part is that you have to stick to you end and follow through accordingly. PS. my toddler lost tv for the day many times for accidents but it finally clicked for her.
God Bless,
-MB

I would just leave her alone. Both of my kids were potty trained at 3yrs and 3months and one of them was just last week - yeah! Anyway, both of mine did what your daughter is doing - so basically I just gave up and left them alone and low and behold both of them decided on a particular day that they wanted to wear underwear and that was that. Once they made up their little minds that they for whatever reason (saw a friend/saw big brother etc.) that they wanted to wear underwear and pee in the potty I just barely had to remind them to go and then after 2 or 3 poop accidents that all went in the potty too. So after my very recent experience and other child I just think potty training is something you can't force on a child - they have to be physically and mentally ready to do it. I promise you will wake up one day and be so amazed that suddenly she is potty trained and she did it herself!!