Potty Training - Oley, PA

Updated on July 12, 2008
T.D. asks from Oley, PA
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I am not having any success potty training my 2 1/2 .she tells me aim peeing and she is telling the truth about that ,but she will not pee in the potty .If I try to take her to the potty she gets upset.should i just wait until she is older.

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J.L.

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I can feel your pain! I started with my daughter around that age and she just turned 4 in June. She thought the potty was a novelty that allowed her a treat of some sort but was just not getting it. She was, up until yesterday I am happy to report, pooping on the potty but NOT peeing! So, my advice is to wait until she is older. Don't stress yourself out - in the words of my pediatrician - she will never start school in a pull-up! My daughter currently has a terrible yeast infection due to wearing the pull-up in this hot weather!! Though we change frequently, it has gotten the best of me and we were back to the pediatrician yesterday! Guess what? HE told her she needs to go to the potty and pee and she agreed! She was dry the rest of the day! I think we're finally onto something. So, don't lose heart. It's probably just not her time yet. Best of luck!

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K.K.

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Try having her in the house naked from the waist down. You will be surprised that it works. It is a leap of faith but my son was trained by 2 1/2. The fact that your daughter understands the sensation means that she is ready.

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S.P.

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I would wait until she starts showing interest in using the potty herself. Keep a small kids size potty in the bathroom(s) and once she sits herself on it then go ahead and ditch the diaper and put on the panties and go for it. If you haven't already offered her an incentive or reward for using the potty that might help her interest. My son got 1 M&M for peeing in the potty and he'd go 50 times a day once he made the connection! It took him less than 2 weeks to get it. I can offer no advice if you have pooping problems though, he refuses to poop on the potty...

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D.P.

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Hi T.,
There's lots of previous posts on this site about potty training that I'm sure would give you lots of ideas. But a few from me: Keep her potty handy at all times. Make sure she can quickly pull down the bottoms she is wearing--or keep her waist-down naked when you're at home. You can do a sticker chart & when she gets 5, 10, (whatever you decide) stickers for going in the potty she can choose a toy or activity she likes. It may be that she's just not ready, but if you feel she is I'd go all the way--no diapers, pull ups etc. Just a pull up at night til she's staying dry through the night. I think it's the kind of thing you gotta do all-or-nothing and once you commit--there's no turning back! Good luck!

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J.I.

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We are trying with my three year old right now. This is what we are currently doing, after I looked some stuff up on the internet.

He will not go on the pot on his own, and gives us some problems about it when we ask. Of late, we are having some progress using "incentives" and "disincentives", and putting the requirement to potty train on someone else -- the doctor.

My son recently had a doctor's visit where the doctor told us we have to get serious about potty training. He remembered that. So, I told him that the doctor called me to ask how he was doing, and I said he'll go sometimes. The doctor told me that is not good enough, and that we need to use the chart. (You can find free incentive charts online.) I have one with a boy on a bike, and a house on the end. There are five arrows leading to boxes, each box is a reward, when you get to the house, it is a bigger reward. We asked him what he wants. (You can modify the request to something small.) He told us he wants cars, so one Matchbox for the first box. We were in an ice cream store the other day, he wanted a clown cone. That will be another box. He colors in an arrow each time he goes. The house will be dinner at McDonald's. You can do whatever, but it has to be something that they want, or it's not an incentive, that's why we asked him what he wanted.

Now, he's not going on the pot with that much more frequency or prodding from us, but he is going more willingly, and when he goes, he says very excitedly, "We can tell the doctor!" He likes filling out the arrows, and he talks about his rewards a lot.

If he goes in his diaper, we take something away for fifteen minutes, and time it. Putting the blame on the doctor has taken some of the fight away. The last time I had to take his cars away, he cried, but he gave me the cars, which he previously would not have done if he perceived me as having the power. He would have run away, or fought my taking the cars. So, there have been some changes. The disincentive, I've found, should be something that they are doing or want immediately. (Heading out the door -- no music in the car, you are outside -- no riding of the whatever.) They need immediate connections between behavior and disincentive. I said, I know, I am so sorry that you can't play with your cars, but that is what the doctor says. You try to be on their side, and you say, that's ok, you'll do better and remember next time, I know you can. You are not supposed to get angry.

In a few weeks, I will tell him that the doctor said no more diapers, and we will move to doing a potty training cold over the weekend, using many of the suggestions already given here by various ladies. (Keeping potty handy, etc.) just putting him on the pot and either bare bottomed or big boy pants. He wants Spiderman pants, so I might tell him he can wear them to school on Monday, depending on how well he does over the weekend.

So, I am going with a more gradual approach. My guy goes pretty willingly at daycare, but is still not asking to go there. At home, he was just fighting us. So, a power struggle was going on with us, and we had to shift the power to the doctor. It is going fairly well. I expect that it is going to be a long haul with him, he just doesn't care about being stinky or anything. But, he barely fits into the diapers, his diapers are just too gross to change, so I've decided we are going to push it a bit. The trend now seems to be to let them do it at their own pace, but I can't do that anymore. So, I might have more trouble than if I waited to let him come into it on his own, but I might get him to do it faster.

Good luck!

Oh Jeez, I just read the post with the lady with the three year old and the doctor telling her it was time to go. The advice I read said kids over three are capable of going, if they are not, they are typically in a power struggle with mom or dad. I wonder if that is what is going on with her little girl!

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G.M.

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Good Morning! All five of mine were using the potty btwn 3-3 1/2. I say using because I never really trained...it was a no stress thing and I tried to let them make the decision. One thing that did help my youngest was that she always wanted to be in the bathroom with me or her older sister...once she realizes that this is part of everyone's daily routine she may just join in...good luck and please try not to stress yourself out too much.

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