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I have a boy almost 5. We had a hard time getting him trained also. We tried giving treats when he went in the potty. Hersy kisses and many other things. I did get to where he would to just to get the treat. But, he did have many accidents. He finally around 4 started going pee in the potty, but wouldn't go poo in the potty. He pooped in his pants way into last summer. It was not until the fall when I stopped putting pull ups on him and started to using underware that he finally got tired of it. I even made him clean up his own pants. One day he all of a sudden started to going poop in the potty and never goes in his pants. It took till he was 4 1/2 before he finally started doing it. It is not that they can't, they just have to make up their minds to do it. As a friend told me, "I promise he will not go to school doing this". I know there were times when I thought he might. But, she was right. Don't worry about what other people think. Each child is different and has their own time table. Good Luck!