Potty Training - Orlando,FL

first, is there a real need or urgency to get her trained? Like she has to be trianed for preschool or something?

If not, take a break for a a few weeks and see if she comes to you... you would be shocked how often kids let you know when they are ready. :)

I have found that it has to be their idea and once it is, you have to go with it and find out their motivation. My oldest daughter (now 3 1/2) began at 2 1/2 yrs old. We tried making her sit on the potty every 1/2 hour or whatever people said...she did NOT go for it and we actually had to back off for about 2 weeks when she came to us and said she was ready. So we started again. I chose the route of putting her in undies as part of her reward. No pee pee on the potty, no pretty undies. Plus, she LOVED getting a couple M&M's as reward. She was completely trained: pee, poo, and through the night by 3. My second daughter obviously was watching her sister for quite a while and would occasionally want me to put her on the potty. She wouldn't ever do anything until one day when she was 23 months old, yes, before she was 2! So we went with it! She was motivated more by BIG time praise and hoopla by us (or anyone around) over her accomplishment. So now at 28 months old, she is completely trained! Yay for her!

I would ask your daughter if she wants to. And what would she like as a reward. She is old enough to know those answers. Hang in there! When she is ready she will get it. The worst part is the messiness during the process and having to stop what you are doing to help them! You can do it!

Yes. YOU shouldn't be potty training her. SHE should tell you when she's ready. Potty training is developmental and they have to be ready physically, emotionally and mentally.

What are you doing right now?

-Can she tell you when she has to go BEFORE she goes?
-Can she following multiple complex commands, for example "susie, go into your bedroom and get the brush and then go into the bathroom and get the ponytail holders and bring those to mommy in the living room"?
-Is she dry during naps/overnight?
-Has she expressed interest in going to the bathroom in the potty?
-Have there been any large disruptions lately.... new baby, move, change in school, change in who lives in her home?

Without knowing more detail on how you are training and how she is resisting I can't give you suggestions.

Good Luck!

its a slow role. Most people will say they will do it when they are ready...I started training my girl around 20 months. she is now 27 months and we are GREAT with an occasional accident. what worked for me was I took a friday off work and worked with her Friday-sunday...NO DIAPERS unless it was nap time or bedtime...the potty chair was in our play area (the kitchen for easy clean up) ..every 45 mins (I set a timer) I sat her on the potty and she would get 1 m&m for sitting on the potty...if she peed she got 2m&ms. It was a slow role at first but once she peed on herself a few times, she started to get the hang of it and LOVED that she got 2 M&Ms for going on the potty (5 m&ms for #2)
That whole weekend I dedicated to not leave the house and every 45 mins (I set a timer) I made her sit on the potty and she got 1 m&m ...just repeat, repeat repeat...whenever you can, keep your LO diaperless and tell him/her that "this is where we go potty"... Good luck.

Have you tried using some incentive a.k.a. a rewarding system? I find it to work very well. It gives the child incentive to use the potty and keep his/her underwear clean/dry. Here are some potty training tips that should help:

http://www.theskinnyscoop.com/search/potty+training?utm_c...

my daughter was potty trained 2 months before she turned 3.

bottom line with potty training is that you can't force it.
you can *only* praise it, and her efforts.
explain to her about going potty.
what peeing in the toilet feels like - break it down step-by-step...

my daughter was particularly motivated by the "big girl" label.
she was desperate to be called a big girl.
so each time she randomly used the potty I'd praise her "you're getting SO close to being a REAL big girl!"
When she started asking for the toilet more consistently I put her in "big girl" panties- so when she had an accident she would know it... and so that she would feel like I was validating her becoming a "big girl".
Also- when in panties- I would ask every 15-20 minutes "do you have to pee pee??"
Fortunately she caught onto pooping really fast-

for me and my daughter the "magic" was in figuring out what motivated her, and giving her the time and patience to "learn" how to use the toilet.

for peace of mind- there are no normal adults in diapers for lack of learning to use the toilet. Only special cirumstance prevents that from happening (accidents, illness, birth defect, etc...) so- don't worry- just work with her and be patient.....

Good luck!