Potty Training - Baldwin,WI

C.,

Relax, change her underwear and let her learn. We as parents tend to push this. She will outgrow it and potty train in her own time.

L. ;)

I have a friend whose daughter did the same thing. When they were home she let her go without underwear and just wear a dress. When she had an accident it was more uncomfortable and she learned pretty quickly to get to the potty.

You know what worked for me with my oldest? He has an absolute obsession with Thomas the Train, when he had an accident we would take his favorite train away and put it up so that he couldn't reach it but he could see it. He hated that and it became his mission to win his train back and now we don't have any more accidents during the day, even during hap time. Nights are another issue but I think that's because I still put him in night time pull ups instead of underwear because I don't want the added work of washing his bedding, but I think I'm going to have to bite the bullet and stop using pull ups. Good Luck!

My daughter was fully trained a couple of weeks after she turned two. Its difficult when they are that young because they typically can't understand why its bad etc, if they potty in their undies. It sounds like she's just about there. What I would do is just begin "thinking for her". If its been a little while, just offer, "do you have to go potty?" or just say, lets go sit on the potty. Just keep communicating to her that you are aware of her having to go potty, and maybe she'll learn too. Or, if you think she might have to go, say "oh, mommy's gotta go potty so I don't have an accident, lets go potty". Good luck with that...

Jennie

Ask your pediatrician about this as it may not be a problem with her, but with her body. When I was three, I had to have surgery to enlarge the opening to my bladder. The problem for me was that the muscle was so tight that I had no sensation of having to go, but once my bladder was full, it would open of it's own accord and I would pee (the full bladder having forced the muscles open). By enlarging the opening, it caused the muscles to relax and according to my mother, my daytime wetting stopped immediatly as it gave me the control rather than my body. (nighttime wetting took longer for me to learn to control). If your ped. can't check for this, they will send you to a urologist and it takes only one appointment to determine if this is the problem or not.

C., i am a mom of 3 boys, each took till they were four to get a hold of the poo poo thing, i hear girls go faster though i dont know, i wish i had started potty training when kid was ready instead of when i was ready , cause i started them around 2 also, but they got the pee down, but took a while, then two years later got the poo down, dont rush potty training, one thing kids can control is what goes in, and when things come out, it will work out in due time, enjoy life, D. s

She is only 2 1/2 I would not fuss about the little accidents. Some children take more time then others to be fully potty trained and her body might just not be ready to know the feeling yet. I would reward her with the times she goes with out the accident but I would not dwell on the accidents. I have 3 kids ( 10, 5, 3) with 1 more on the way and they all were different ages when they were ready. 18 months - 3 1/2 years.

Sounds pretty normal to me. I think that lecturing about the accidents only makes it worse. They really are accidents, she's just busy playing and doesn't always pay attention to potty needs. As she ages she'll get used to it and better know when she has to pee. My daughter did this for at least a year before she really knew when to go potty. Until then I had to carry extra underwear and shorts/pants with me. I tried not to make her feel bad because I wanted her to learn for herself. She usually felt badly enough about the accidents that she waited to tell me and didn't need any additional guilt. I'd just tell her "that happens", take her to the potty, change her underwear and pants, and move on. My daughter found it especially hard to tell me in public places. In addition auto-flush toilets horrified her (and still do), so I had to cover the "eye" with a piece of tp so we ould control when it flushed.

As a mom of six, just be patient, and she will get it!!. like someone told me they don't go down the asile in diapers. It just seems like it takes forever but it does happen just keep incouraging her. Good luck.

She might not yet be able to recognize the sensation of "needing to pee". It's great that she realizes once she starts peeing that she needs to get to the potty. Try not to make her feel bad about the accident, but praise her for going to the potty once she realized what's going on. The rest will come.

Hi C.,

When I trained my son....I took him to the bathroom with me every time I went. I took him as soon as he got up, at bed...when I laid him down and again went i went to bed. He only had 4 accidents total. I took him potty all the time. Hope this kinda helps.

J. A

One of the diaper companies - Pampers maybe, has a great potty training kit and in it comes a CD from a psycologist and it's AWESOME to listen to - we struggled with similar situation, and we too have a strong willed daughter with an attitude. This Dr. talked to us as parents and explained how we need to think- not what we needed to do for our child. Basically, in the scheme of life does it really matter at what age a child is potty trained, has anyone ever asked YOU at what age you were potty trained? Basically it was - most kids will get it, but in their own time. He said he doesn't see kids in Kindergarten in diapers so let them do it. As she mixes with others she won't want to be the baby in diapers or be made fun of by the other kids when she has an accident. Good Luck - I think Potty Training was one of my trying times with my 5 year old and mostly because I expected too much!

2 1/2 is too young to understand what is 'good' or 'bad' about peeing. To a two year old, peeing is just something that happens. Try to let go of the process C.... the more you push her the more confused she will get. Let yourself believe that she is not intentionally doing anything at this age - especially getting to the bathroom too late.

Praise the bathroom visits that go well and ignore the rest. Have lots of panties on hand and change them joyfully. Wet panties is not a deal breaker in the mothering world - having a loving and comforting mother is!

When she is on the potty peeing have her notice that "tickle" feeling and that is her "got to go feeling". That way she correlates what that feeling is.
Another thing that worked was when Ava had an accident we would "practice" going to the bathroom 10x in a row. I took her to various places in the house.
For instance:
IN the living room
"Ava if you are watching TV and you get the "got to go feeling", what do you do?"
She'd reply "Put pee and poopoo in the toilet"
Then we would run to the bathroom and she would sit on the potty for a second or two. Then we would go to another part of the house and repeat this for a total of 10x.
After the second accident and second practice she said that she didn't want to practice anymore and did not have accidents after that. We potty trained in 4 days and have been dry every day and night. :) Good luck!

I used to set a timer to remind my daughter it was time to go potty or she would get too involved in playing and wait too long. Good luck

C.,

I had a problem similar to this with one of my children. If you are sure that the "potty training" should be well established by now, the problem on my end turned out to be too much interest in the toys/play.

My son would just hold it too long; which caused the "accidents." He seemed to enjoy his activity to the point of not wanting to walk away for a few minutes.

Suggestions: extra reminders to go use the bathroom--carry that doll with you, "...she'll wait with you until you're done." --maybe an M&M each time she uses the bathroom before having an accident (remember with this, though, the M&M needs to come to an end at some time).

Good Luck; Be creative; every child is different,
S.

Be patient.

Some kids need more time then others. I know it might be frustrating at times. I wanted my son to be potty trained so badly. He was 4 and still had to where pull-ups to bed at night. All my friends were sharing with me how "their kids" were potty trained at 2 or 2-1/2. I thought there was something wrong with our little guy. I talked with my mom and she shared with me that each child has there own timing. She would know! She had 3 kids in diapers for over 5 years. She had two sets of twins and a single in between all within 4 years!

When I started to just go with it, and stop making a fuss over it, that's when he stopped. There's our time and then there's God's time. Sometimes they just don't match.

Hope this helps some.

J.

My daughter is 6.5 and we still struggle with that because she waits til the last possible minute to go. She get's so busy or involved with something she will have a trickle or mini-accident and then have to run to the bathroom. She has secretly had this happen at school in first grade 4x this year. She will put toliet paper in her undies and come home like that. It's not enough for anyone to know it's not a full blown accident but it's a problem. I am up to the ears with frustration. I blame it on lazyness. At home I just remind my child often to go try if I notice she hasn't gone in awhile.

I think it just takes time. My daughter did the same thing for awhile. Her body may not be delveloped enough for her to "hold it" long enough to get to the bathroom. I would still keep reminding her thoroughout the day if she has to go, that will remind her to be looking for the "feeling" so she can get to the potty in time. If it bothers you too bad, you can just prompt her to try to go as certain times so that it isn't so long between her potty breaks. The padded undies (I think gerber makes them) were great for this stage, so that you're not constantly changing pants and undies, just the undies. Hope it helps!

Two & 1/2 is young, so I don't push it. Just continue to encourage her and eventually she will get the idea. I used trainign pants, rather than regular thin little panties, because the "oops" were less of a mess and embarassment. They come in pretty little pink prints for girls. I had one child that literally trained overnight when he turned two, and then my next two children, girls, took over six months each before they were totally trained. It will happen in its own time.

SAHM of seven