Potty Training - Brooklyn,NY

Get a potty and ask her to join you whenever you use the toilet. Show her what you do and explain to her what's going on. Let her experiment with all the steps (taking off her clothes, sitting, wiping, washing hands, etc whether she actually pees or not. At this age it's all about new experiences and much easier to learn from example. Other times, if you see her getting cranky for no reason, fussing, not settling down, or showing other signs of needing to relieve herself, suggest going to the potty (if you can, join her--you don't really need to pee though). Just keep it all relaxed and lighthearted.

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Try the Lora Jenson ebook "3 day potty training method"
http://www.3daypottytraining.com/

I do home childcare and had a parent approach me last year with this for her then 28 mos old son who had never ever gone potty in a seat or toilet before. We decided to go for it..she was willing and I was willing to support the outcome of thier long weekend. She said it was like boot camp and she waged the war!

You toss ALL diapers or Pull ups (I hate those things)...so no crutches! You have meals ready, casseroles or frozen pizzas and waffles, etc. No errands to do or yardwork or big house cleaning. You stay a few feet from your child for the 3 days (some have needed 4). You DO NOT make your child sit on the toilet at timed intervals and you never ask them to go, but instead, remind them to tell you when they need to go..subtle difference. They learn to listen to their body, rather than a parent forcing them to go sit on the potty. Also, keep that potty seat in the bathroom! Where in the world can you go potty in a livingroom out in the real world???

In the last year I have had 5 children train this way over a 3-4 day weekend and I continue it here at my home childcare. Most have gone back to diapers or pull ups at night only, but I use none for naps, etc. Some accidents happen, but very few really. My youngest was 22 mos, the oldest 29 mos. I have one who turned 2 yesterday and his parents did this method over the last weekend (it was a 4 day weekend as I was closed for 2 days)...and hes in undies and has had one accident (a poo) in the last 3 days, including naps of 2-3 hours each day.

I refuse to have children any older than 30 mos not trained or attempting it here any longer when there are alternatives. Most of these kids had never gone in potty before and I try not to use a small seat any longer than needed and use the full size toilet. I need to help with pants and hand washing, but to me this is way better than all those diapers on big kids!

You can do it!!!

Buy her a training toilet. I would take her to the store and let he choose one. May be when she wakes up put her on the potty or after she is in the bathtub. A lot of times they drink the water that they bathe in. When she goes praise her and if she has accidents do not scold her. If she is not interested in the toilet do not despair. Put her on the training potty when you go. It is good not to put pressure. When they are ready, the training will go will quick. My son was fully trained in about two months. Good luck.

I know I am totally spoiled...my son's day care trained him for me, pretty much, so it was easy-peasy! Basically, all they did was take him to potty every 2 hours, and suggest that he go potty. It was easy for him to see how the other kids were doing it. He would go sometimes, and for that he got an M&M, and when he did not go he did not get an M&M. So, they did that for a bit, and they told me to continue this at home, and I was very skeptical that it would work...but I decided to try anyway. At home, I would say, see Mommy go potty? And do it in front of him. But, once he got the hang of want to do once there, I stopped doing that (now I say I need my privacy, and he obliges; he will in turn tell me he needs his "piracy," and I will "give" it to him by leaving the bathroom but letting the door ajar so I can peek at him still). Sure enough, I noticed his diaper would stay dry for longer and longer. After a few days of his diaper being totally dry all day, they suggested I change to underwear. I did, and that was that...in no time flat, he was trained. So I guess one thing they did that I thought was different was changing from diapers to underwear being the LAST thing they did, not the first thing or doing it somewhere in the middle when he was still wetting from time to time. It was so easy - not to mention clean. I still cannot believe my kid is actually trained - and I can even say he stays dry at night too! But, that simple little method worked. I did not even buy a potty seat for him (well, I did purchase one that you out over your toilet, but he refuses to use it). I did try a potty book or too, he was totally disinterested.

Potty Training in One Day

My friend taught me this and it worked, even with my child with special needs. Granted it took two days instead of one (and longer follow up).

The big idea is that you potty train your child in one day. You can start with a 2 year old. It’s best to do it before they get in to the ‘no’s, when they still want to please you. But it still works perfectly when they are older. It is not an issue of waiting until ‘they are ready’. I am not a naturally cheerful person, but I put on a big act all day. Amazing how it works. One cannot get angry or show frustration (trust me I know – I’ve done it with three kids). Cheerful! Happy! Enthusiastic!

You and your child spend the entire day from after breakfast until dinner in the bathroom. You fill them with as much liquid as possible as early as possible for as long as possible so they have to pee a lot and get to practice feeling the sensation of needing to pee a lot and of running to the potty a lot. If they take an afternoon nap, stop the liquid 2 hours before nap time (I diaper for the nap time, but my friend did not).

The child wears a tshirt and panties (thick training ones or thin normal ones) that she can pull down on her own easily.

You two play games, sing songs, have a great time together.

Then you say, “Are your panties dry?”
She feels her panties. “Yes!”
“Good job. You kept your panties dry! You get a skittle! Let’s run to the potty! Isn’t this fun?” You sit on the potty to show how much fun it is to do. She sits on the potty. Have a big drink of chocolate milk

The point is not to go pee on the potty or to wait until she goes on the potty. The point is to keep the panties dry (the derivative is that she pees in the potty).

Every few minutes you stop your song/game/puzzle and say, “Are your panties dry?”
She feels her panties. “Yes!”
“Good job. You kept your panties dry! You get a skittle! Let’s run to the potty! Isn’t this fun?” You sit on the potty to show how much fun it is to do. She sits on the potty. ! Have a big drink of chocolate milk!

Repeat every five/ten minutes. Eventually she will have drunk so much that she will have to go. It doesn’t matter if she has an accident. Be cheerful. “That’s okay. Let’s clean it up! (Have her help you.) Sit on the potty. Yeah! Let’s get on dry panties.’ In a few minutes, ask her, “Are your panties dry?”
She feels her panties. “Yes!”
“Good job. You kept your panties dry! You get a skittle! Let’s run to the potty! Isn’t this fun?” You sit on the potty to show how much fun it is to do. She sits on the potty. Have a big drink of chocolate milk.

In the afternoon, practice running from another room to the potty, repeat everything.

They will get a lot of practice feeling dry (treats), sitting on the potty (balance, coordination, success being independent). And eventually even peeing on the potty. The focus is on keeping their panties dry!

Before the Big Day
Let them be in a diaper. Don’t worry about potty training and previous struggles with it. For a week ahead of time, talk about what fun mommy and child are going to have, a whole day together – no sister, no daddy, no etc. We are going to have fun! You get to keep your panties dry! We will play! We will run to the potty! We will go peepee on the potty! So exciting.

The Big Day
Do not: answer the phone, check the computer, make dinner, call about the roofer coming.

Do: Put on an apron with good pockets filled with little favorite treats (skittles, m and ms, goldfish – whatever she doesn’t usually get). Fill sippy cups (stoppers out so easy to drink more fast) with whatever she will down huge amounts of (I never gave my kids full strength juiee or chocolate milk, but they got as much as they wanted that day). Stock the bathroom with toys, books (not a movie player), music, little puzzles. (Don’t have them all out to see and be overwhelmed with – have them in the bathroom closet or under the changing table – bring out a few things at a time to play with.

She will get lots of experience and joy out of keeping her panties dry and lots of experience running to the potty and experience in peeing in the potty. You are well on your way to having her out of diapers.

For the night time, I kept her in diapers. The reward for keeping her diaper dry for three nights in a row was getting to wear her panties to bed. Stop liquids of any kind 2 hours before bed. If she regularly has a wet diaper at night, no big deal. Tons of kids have small bladders. Just let it be. Make it a big deal to get to wear panties, but not cajoling/punishing/teasing/stressing about it. One of my girls wore diapers to bed for quite a while after being fully potty trained during the day.

You’ll do a great job!

i started both my kids at 16 mo. and they were totally trained by 2! just put them on... i would put them on 3 times a day at the beg... and then started putting them on every 2 hours or so... and rewarded them with goldfish crackers... good luck

Just watch her cues and go with it. Get a little potty for her to use when/if she wants to.
My daughter did the same thing at this age, so I pulled out our potty seat. She only used it twice so we put it back away. At 20 months she pulled itout again and has used it since. When I knew she was really ready (cried when I put a diaper on her), I bought some underpants (Target sells some by Gerber that are super thick cotton - I think they're called training pants). She had only a few accidents and is now completely potty trained at 23 months - even at night!
My oldest son was just as easy - potty trained at 23 months with Pull-ups at night. My middle son was 3-1/2 when fully trained so it really is up to them and their readiness. My advice is to just go with her cues. She'll tell you when she's ready.
Good luck!

Hi J.,
My son is now 25 months and completely potty trained. Like your child, he started showing interest when he was about 19 months. I used Potty Predictor iPhone App. My son loved it. It's really a neat app that includes and adjustable timer, postive rewards for successes and trying, as well as encouragement for accidents. The really great thing about the app is that it collects and analyzes all the data and will then predict when your child will have to pee.
Best of luck! We love our diaper free days!

My daughter is also 17 months and VERY interested in the potty. We have a toilet with a built in potty seat and she loves to sit on it. I'm not training yet, but we went out and bought a potty seat, I let her pick between 2 seats- she chose Elmo. The potty seat is in the bathroom and she loves to sit on it fully clothed when we go. I would start there and then if she's interested start having her sit periodically throughout the day. You will hear a ton of advice, but the important thing is consistency. I think most methods will work if done consistently. Good luck!