Potty Training - Vineland,NJ

Dear T.,

i just want to commend you in your decision to home school your boys. I stepdaughter homes schooled her four girls and she is good at what she does. She also belong to a homeschol co-op in new jersey because that is where she lives. You should look into what the staate offers for you to home school. I know of people who have gotten computers for homeschool. God bless you and always as you say continue to love the lord with all your heart and soul. Continue to seek him first early in the morning and you will find rest for your soul. God bless and happy new years. In christ C.

T.,
He may just be a little too young yet. BUT if you are committed to complete the potty training, I would say only put a pull up on him only for overnight. No diapers at all now. You've gotta pretty much be on it, and on him, all day with reminders, opportunities to go, etc. Know where very public toilet is wherever you go. Make him pee before the tub and make him pee before bed. Have you bought the book Once Upon A Potty (boy version)? He might really like that and it may get him a more focused. Use easy off pants like elastic waist, sweatpants etc so he can easily get it done. Good luck!

Hi, T.! Don't you just love this little community here. I'm so happy to see you taking advantage of it. Anyhow, there was a potty training request made on October 24, 2008 that I responded to. I suggest that you check out mine and all the responses to that one in addition to the responses you get. There was some good advice and info in them as well. To look it up click on "Requests and Responses" at the top of the page, then select the topic on the left "Family & Parenting," then "Other Family & Parenting". It's under 10/24/08 & Erin S. "Potty Training". I have the "Once Upon a Potty for him" DVD if you want it. I think we only watched it once- it was a bit weird. It sounds like Benjamin already gets it though, so I don't think he needs a video introduction! Hope it all works out well real soon. Love, Tabi

I am going to go a different route with this.....I am only offering this because i learned ALOT from the potty training experience. I would call myself blessed in this aspect because my then almost 3 yr old kind of did it herself with encouragement....I too had the issue with peeing in her panties and her pull up, and this is what happened.....Here it is.....He is 2 1/2 yrs old(not sure if he will be three soon), but anyhow....he should not be cleaning up a soiled mess! Period! Whether you are standing there or not! That is unsanitary, and foul! A child does not know the proper way to clean themselves....it is learned through the process....My daughter at the age of 2 1/2, peed off and on on the potty....I used pull ups, and encouraged her to potty often....A few weeks later, I put panties on her, and she peed within min in the panties.....This is what i said to her....keep in mind what i tell you afterwards....,"Ilena, wow you really made yourself wet....does that feel cold?????She said yes....I said, well it wont feel cold if you pee in the bowl......let me show you....so I sat her on the potty, and we sat there for twenty five min.....with crayons, and a coloring book, and when she peed....in the bowl.....she emotionally realized that she did not feel wet....she was sooooooo excited, and so was i......She never had an accident again...(Like I said....I feel lucky)!!!!!I still put pull ups on her at night(she wakes up either in the middle of the night to go potty or wakes up dry), cause i found that plastic panties do not always work....She has now been potty trained fully for 3 months! She goes all by herself, wipes herself, and washes and dries her hands....EVERYTHING.... And she just turned three! Be patient(I know you are from the sounds of your post), and again....dont push him...
Once they realize how great it feels, and when they are ready...they just do it.....dont rush it, just encourage it.....

Was that a typo?? Did you mean the minute you put a diaper OR big boy underpants on him he urinates in them?

first i would throw out all the pull ups or diapers away and stick with the undies. You can buy plastic pants that protect keep in the accidents while still giving the sensation of undies.

I would make him wear them at home, and every time he pees them, YOU stand right there next to him as he gets a rag and cleans (you can go back and do it better later) the mess up, YOU stay right next to him while he takes off the soiled pants and takes them to the laundry, , YOU stay right next to him while he washes up, YOU stay right next to him while he gets clean clothes and changes.
You don't have to nag or say a disapproving word, YOU just have to make sure he takes responsiblity for his actions. If you can be consisten with this, I bet it will only take a day or two and he will be 100 percent trained.
It is exhausting though, if you can ship the other son off to grandmas or confine the training to say your kitchen or first floor, it's a little easier. Hope i explained that right, I mean bringing toys in on the vinyl kitchen floor, with a free standing potty chaird and having a pile of clean clothes and a hamper for dirty ones all in the same room and you and your child spend most of the day in the kitchen working on this.
It's hard work but I'm sure you and your son can do it and be very successful. Also, I just assumed from the tone of your post that you already use positive reinforcement and are already praising him for the lengths of time that he is dry. Say if you put undies on him and he is still dry after 10 mins then you give a big hug and lots of kind words.
Last thought, Loose clothing like sweats or something and practice sessions where he goes to the potty and pulls his pants down just to practice doing it, might give him confidence and experience.
Good Luck.