Potty Training - Glendale,AZ

We just went thru this too, she was so clever at disappearing to do poo in her pants that I couldn't even catch her squatting and move her to the potty. Finally I decided to pick a toy that she really really wanted - she had just started playing with her older sister's Calico Critters. So I bought a family of those, and put them up high in the bathroom where she could see them, and told her she could have one of the critters when she did poo on the potty. She REALLY wanted one of those kitty cats! So it did not take long. we did go through 2 families which was pretty expensive, but it was TOTALLY WORTH IT to not be cleaning out squishy stinky soiled clothing any more! Once she had physically done poo on the potty that many times, we were able to revert back to stickers as rewards.
So maybe you can try some small, but extremely motivating items to get him started too. All the best!

My son is five and we are still having issues with him pooping in his pants. We thought it was constipation so we tried laxitives, we tried punishing him every time he went in his pants, taking away priviledges, giving rewards you name it. He is doing a lot better now but I'm not sure why it is almost like his body wasn't ready. He just got older and figured it out. I feel bad because I think we made too big of a deal out of it and made him afraid to poop at all. Boys definately have a harder time with potty training than girls. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I would have relaxed and reinforced that poop goes in the potty but not freaked out every time he went in his pants.

my second son was a reluctant toilet pooper. he would tell us when he hd to go #1 but would hide for #2. He would get comfortable pooping in his diaper or pull up. So we bit the bullet and whenever we were at home put him in underwear. Yes he had some accidents but after a while he realized it was uncomfortbale to #2 in his pants. He has been day trained for about a month and will be 3 in January. We will try the same approach with night training soon but we have a new baby and we are trying to catch up on or sleep.

I am going through the same thing with my son (he's 2 years 10 months). He is potty trained when it comes to "peepee" but "poopoo" is different. I have to catch him right before he goes or he'll go in his pants. He is scared to go "poopoo" on the toilet. When he was in diapers no one was allowed to look at him when he was going "poopoo" and/or we had to leave the room or he'd go to a room by himself. So he has always be private, maybe embarrassed; who knows. I just try to catch my son right before he goes. I can always tell by his body language and the noises he makes. He has gone twice now on the toilet. I really praise him and reiterate that he is supposed to "poopoo" on the toilet.

I have known many kids that this happens to. Some even get constipated or have minor tummy aches because they hold it.

I know it's easy to get discouraged when things don't work the first time, second time or third but that's just how it is. You have to put forth the effort and have patience. It will work itself out. Keep doing what you're doing and your son will get the hang of it soon enough.

Best of luck. Hang in there. :)

Hello!

After our daughter had pee'ing in the toilet down, she generally understood that poo goes the same way. But she did not seem to want to go to the potty or toilet for that. We were always there and read a story to make the time it took pleasant and in the end we resorted to sheer bribery. For every delivery in the toilet, she got a toy car (that she could pick herself) and we called Dad to tell him of the accomplishment and generally made a big deal about it. She has now probably 20 cars and this is not such an issue anymore as she recognizes when things are going on with her.

Hope this helps! Fun timess are ahead : )
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I.,

Just went through this with our son who turned three back in July. What worked for us was similar to to what worked for Deille. Now, I am a mom that rarely gives candy to my son. When he gets candy it is a big deal. Usually a few M&M's (like less than 5) is a big treat. Each time he would go pee pee he would get either 2 M&Ms or 2 gummy bears. He wouldn't go poopy in the potty though, he'd hide somewhere and go in his pants. When he would go poopy in the potty without any accident in his pants I gave him a lollipop. Then I'd call Daddy at work or Grandma/Grandpa to tell them all about it and they'd make a big deal out of it. We've even praised him for his accomplishments in front of our other parent friends and various other receptive/friendly people at church/grocery/etc. People were always very cooperative with this and got a kick out of it themselves.

After the second lollipop there have been no more accidents. He's been doing this consistently for about a month. We still give lollipops and make a big deal out of each poopy. I've read where it takes doing something 27 times to make a habit out of it. Just consistently keep up with something that your son really values as a reward and he'll have it in no time.

Also, if you're comfortable with it, we'd let our son see myself and my husband do our business in the potty which helped him see that it is something that "big people" do, and normal to do in the potty and not in his pants. Good luck!

One more thing, we went cold-turkey on the diapers and just do "pull-ups" for bed (we'll tackle bedtime in a few months). He wasn't really too happy to get poopy on his "Lightening" or "Thomas" underpants. We also made up a silly walk that would happen if a poopy got in your pants. He thought mommy looked pretty funny and didn't want that to happen to him.

Don't force it. Just talk about how fun and clean it is and remind him of the rewards afterwards. He'll do it when he's ready. My youngest just turned 3 on the 13th and it didn't seem like he cared about pooping in the potty at all. One day last week he ran to the bathroom to go pee-pee and then he yelled at me that he had to go poo-poo in the potty (a first for him). I ran in there to watch him and after he experienced how fun it was, he's been doing it every day since. We did have leftover birthday cake last week, so he received bits of cake of frosting every time afterwards, along with huge hugs. Now we are just doing huge hugs and he is soooooo happy.

also...... don't push it too early..... he'll know when he's ready... the average time for boys is 3.5 years.... we even have one friend who just learned after his 4th birthday

I went through this with both my boys,it took sometime but eventually got worked out. I worried the same as you because wow I thought that will be such a nasty mess if the poop in there big boy undies,it only happened couple times because they didn't like having the poop on them as they were older and realizing they could potty on toilet so if you make him feel like big boy when he does potty that may help,I always encouraged the toilet and when they went I would say something like good job on the big boy potty,some reason that helped,can't promise it will help everyone but good luck with this task....

Hi I.,

Funny, I was just talking to a friend about the exact same thing a few days ago as we are both potty training our girls right now. My daughter did not want to go in the potty and wanted a diaper on when she had to go. I didn't cave on putting a diaper on and thankfully, she had just one poopy accident in her underwear and has gone in the potty ever since. But I was reading an article where someone suggested cutting a hole in their diaper/pull up and having them try going on the potty with it on. If he has a certain time he goes or if you can catch him when it looks like he is ready to go, you can swap with the hole-y pull up and maybe that would make him feel more comfortable for the first few times. I don't know if it works, but if my daughter continued to poo in her underwear, I would have tried it! : ) Good luck to you!