Potty Training - Cornelius, NC

My daughter had the same problem with her son. She let him run around without his diaper or pants for a couple of days, and he would not go anywhere but in the potty. I think it took 2 to 3 days (the teacher at her preschool told her to try this). Of course you will have to do this when you can stay home for a couple of days in a row.

You've probably tried this, but have you read her some books about kids pooping in the potty? Here are some - http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_b?url=node%3D4&fiel... . I remember we used "Once Upon a Potty".

Maybe she is scared and afraid of flushing 'part of herself' away. Perhaps you could not flush one time yourself and have her see it and flush it for you to show her it isn't scary.

Remember, this too shall pass. Good luck.

A.,

Thank you for this question. My son just turned 3 a couple months ago and refuses to poop on the potty. He is day trained for peeing, but he just does not want to go poop on the potty. I put a diaper on him at night since he still goes quite a bit in his sleep, and he takes that opportunity to poop. He will hold it all day until he gets that diaper on. It delays bed time by 30minutes which drives me crazy. I have tried putting him on the potty before the diaper, but he is so upset by it that it's just not worth it. It's good to hear that other moms are dealing with this even past the age of 4. I don't feel so terrible that he is not fully trained (like the boy younger than him down the street... Ugh!).

Good luck!
Jen

The best thing to do is stop pressuring her. Don't make a big deal of it. When she realizes that you seem to not care any more, she is going to do it on her own and come to you for praise. Then you congratulate her and move on. My son did the same thing and this was the best thing I could have done for him.
N.

It took my now 4.5 yr old more than a year to master pooping. He usually wouldn't tell me and would poop in his pants. He still soemtimes has messing spots from needing to go but trying to hold it. I had to just watch him for his signs of needing to go and force him into the potty. I tried very hard not to pressure him or get mad but it was very frustrating. My husband had very little patience for it. It took a long time but we're getting there.

I've successfully trained my two cats to go pee and poop in the toilet (it took about 3 weeks). I'd suggest positive reinforcement and treats (snacks in your case--pick something your daughter really enjoys). Hope that helps! :)

My daughter was a month over age 4 before "it" happened. The reward that finally motivated her was a large gummi tarantula. She wanted it so badly that finally she caved in... good luck and remember, no one goes off to college in Depends... she get there!

A., first of all relax...we've all been there. My son was almost four when he finally stopped. And the only reason he did....my mother had come to visit so he stayed home with her for a week...she put him in his "big boy" underwear and let him poop in his pants. After a day or two there were no more problems. It embarrased him so much he finally realized he needed to go to the potty. It was a bit messy, to include the first few times that she made him stay in it on the kitchen floor until she had "time" to clean him up. Really worked. I know it sounds gross, probably why I couldn't do it! Bleach is a wonderful product and I used it all week on my floors! Just watch the carpet! Hope this helps and remember, the time will come I promise.

MAN! You too?! My daughter turned 4 last month and has been potty trained for 2 years, that included peeing and pooping and having no accidents. Over the summer she got constipated and thus became impacted and I had to well, help her out. That scared her and us as well and it has been smooth sailing until now. There has been no change in her life, other than the 2 weeks off from preschool.
She has told us that she doesn't like to go poop because a) she doesn't like it, b) it's too hard, c) it hurts and d) she isn't strong enough to push it out. It's all a load, excuse the pun!
What I have had to do the past 2 bowel-movements is give her a suppository. After fighting with her for 45 minutes, her trying to make a deal with us that she will "go tomorrow", crying, kicking, etc.. I just laid her down and told her "this is going up your butt AGAIN, stop struggeling" and stuck it in and squeezed and in 3 seconds she went poop. This was last night, I had to do it last Friday as well. She doesn't like it, I don't either, but they have to poop and maybe, just maybe the threat of that suppository will get her back into the groove of things.
The suppositories are made by Fleet for children. They have a whole line of laxative meds for kids. They have a little penguin on the package. Don't bother with the stool softener though, it tasts HORRIBLE and irritates their throat. I bought the glycerin (sp?) liquid suppositories to use right away and a box of laxative strips to start using if she doesn't go by tomorrow. Just give her one in the morning and by the time she gets home she will have to go.
There are MANY reasons why kids won't go poop. It is really disgusting, it hurts and it takes time away from other activities.
After the initial poop my daughter got in the tub to play (she was COMPLETELY A-OK after the insertion and was SUPER CHEERFUL when the poop came out, as if nothing happened..she even thanked and kissed me for the "help") and within 2 minutes she had to go again, this happened twice. Well, all I can say is that we PRAISED her for going on her own and she was SO happy about it. I dare not say the situation is fixed, but I DO think it is on the mend.
Try this and see what happens. Boy, is she going to fight you, but once she realizes the she HAS to go poop...that she WILL go poop, that going poop isn't a choice, she should come around. We told our daughter if this happenes again, that she is going to the doctor and we mean it. You cannot use laxatives on a child like this on a regular basis.
Trying to bribe our daughter NEVER WORKS FOR ANYTHING..even all the gummy candy in the world (her fav) will not convince her to do something she doesn't want to, she'll just say, "Well, I dont' need it then, or I never wanted it anyway."
Good luck!