Hi Everyone,
I have currently began the process of potty training my daughter, who will be two in a couple weeks. She is doing really well the past few days and I am so proud, however I am having difficulty getting her to poop in the potty. She pees several times a day in the potty and is very happy but when she feels she has to poop she asks for a diaper and gets upset and cries. I have tried to reassure her and calm her down and tried putting her on the potty to poop but she only gets more upset and begs for a diaper. I put pull ups on her when she takes a nap and for bed but during the day she just wears a long dress with nothing on her bottom. As soon as I put the pull up on her for bed or nap she immediately poops in it. Its only been a few days that I have been training her so I am trying to stay positive but I dont know how to help her and make her poop in the potty. Has anyone else had the poop issue?
I had the same problem with my son and it was a matter of getting him to relax. We finally started having him play a hand held game while sitting on the potty and he relaxed enough to poop. It is a sesame street follow the leader game and he enjoyed it so much he continues to play it everytime he poops. Good luck.
C.,
Celeste is exactly right. Just keep encouraging your daughter and try not to show her your frustrations even tho we all go thru that. Believe me, she will eventually get it one day.
M.
That's great that you are getting her to train! The main thing is be consistent! Now one thing I would suggest about the pooping in the potty. If she poops usually when she goes down for a nap. Take her in to go "pee" and take a book with. Something she loves to read! Perhaps a long book. You want her to relax enough so that she will just sit there and go on her own. Once you can get her to go a few times like that she will feel more comfortable about it. You can also try catching her in the midst of pooping and then stick her on the potty really quickly. I recommend using a regular toilet and potty seat top so they can't hop off as easily
V.
Hi C.,
My son was the same he would pee fine but where potty was concerned he would simply refuse. I tried everything but he would rather get constipated than potty in the potty.
One day however, a friend of his who was about 6 saw him potty in the diaper and just said hey u are a baby.
After that he gave the diapers up. He got potty trained in a day so do not worry. Don't push. If she is ready she will start herself.
Don't feel she needs to be potty trained just because she is turning 2. Both my daughers trained just before their third birthday, and it was a breeze because they were ready.
Hi C., It's simple really, she just isn't completely ready to potty train yet. Just relax, go with the flow and when she's ready to poo in the potty she will. None of my girls trained until they were three and we had no problems, issues or accidents. It really is a control issue and your best bet is to just roll with it for now. Good luck & best wishes.
A very high percentage of Children do not poop in the potty right away. It can sometimes take months before they actually poop in the potty. Knowing when they have to go, and actually going are two completely different things. I have heard that some kids think they are loosing a part of themselves when they try and poop. Keep positive. My 3 yr old still does not poop on potty. She will tell me after she poops, cause she knows that if she tells me, I will place her on the potty.
Please know that you are doing the right thing. In a couple of weeks (if you are totally consistant) she will poop in the potty. I have 4 daughters and the latest trainer was done at 2 1/2. I do not want to sound mean but i absolutley do not agree that you have wait so late. I had one as early as 18 months. I promise you that if you are very positive, encouraging and consistant she will be fine. I really could not imagine changing diapers any older...eek!
I agree with the two other moms. Also, studies show that MOST children are not ready to FULLY potty train until they are close to 3 years old. My daughter did the same thing at 2 1/2. I just backed off and followed her lead. She would run to pee on the potty all by herself. But for poop, she wanted her pull-up. Then one day, she just pooped on the potty and never looked back! So relax and be patient. She will do it! Take care. :)
Here's what worked for my sister when she was potty training her children, who had similar issues during the beginning of potty training.
She allowed her daughter to wear a pullup to poop in, but the rule was that she had to poop in the pullup while in the bathroom, preferrably while sitting on the potty. Once all pooping was consistently happening in a pullup while sitting on the potty, she cut the bottom out of the pullup and made a pullup "belt", which allowed the poop to go directly into the potty, but her daughter still had the security of having the pullup one. Once my niece saw that pooping in the potty didn't hurt or cause her to fall in or caused her to be "flushed away"(her underlying fears of why she refused to do it), there was no need for the pullup "belt" anymore, and she was potty trained.
I think that there is something about the effort a poop can take vs a pee, that makes smart little ones fear for their safety with pooping on the potty...
When she is ready she will go poop in the potty. You don't want her to have a negative poop experience because that may cause her to hold it then comes constipation. That is not good.
There is a funny book called Everybody Poops. My kids loved it.
Hopes that helps a little. Both of my children got potty trained at 2yrs 7 months. They both started saying they had to go and then they continued to go in the potty. Not when I thought they were ready but when they were ready. Continue to teach and encourage though.
love J.
