Potty Training - #2 Is Going Better than #1 - Riverside,CA

Updated on March 05, 2010
R.R. asks from Highland, IN
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We've been potty training for about a week and a half. My son is pooping in the potty (when I encourage him to go) but still having tons of pee accidents (no poop accidents anymore)! He can and has peed in the potty many times, when I take him but is now showing a little resistance and whereas he had told me a few times before when he needed to go, he will not tell me he needs to go anymore, he'll pee in his pants or pull-up and not say anything about it until we bring it up and then he'll say he had an accident. my feeling is he doesn't really care if he goes in his pants. But he does care about poop it seems. Any tips on how to reintroduce the idea that we don't pee in our pants, and that we need to run to the bathroom, etc. I feel like a broken record. He is only 25 months, but showed many sign of readiness and has been excited overall about it, though now the pee part is getting worse than it was at first. Whenever I think, maybe his stubbornness is telling me that he isn't really ready yet, he seems to make progress tight then so we keep at it. But I don't want to go on too long if it isn't going to happen. Anyone else experienced this/tips? Do I just keep the pull-up on and let him pee in it but poop in the potty so that I at least don't have to change poop diapers (or regress on the parts he is doing well with by returning him to a diaper and telling him to now poop in it again)??

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M.C.

answers from Honolulu on

He is kinda young... It is great that he poops in the potty, but he might just not be as motivated to pee because it happens more often, and it is a more frequent interruption to his day. Also, since he is in a pull-up, there are absolutely no consequences for peeing in his pull-up, because, after all it is just an expensive diaper. You could go either way...
1. pull back to diapers (more economical, since this could go on for years) and let him tell you when he has to poop in the potty - I would still encourage that behavior.
OR... 2. lose the pull-ups all together and work really, really hard to motivate him to pee in the potty. This will take lots of effort for both of you, so brace yourself.

Now, in either case, let him know what you are doing. Go shopping and buy him the most awesome underwear that he can find. If choosing option #1, just put them in his drawer and tell him that when he decides to keep his Barney Undies clean and dry, he can choose to wear them. Other than that, we go with the diapers. One day, he will be ready and he will put those undies on and it will take him 5 minutes to be potty trained. But, that day might come when he is 4 1/2 years old.

Good luck!

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K.T.

answers from Los Angeles on

Kids - especially boys it seems - hate to stop playing to pee. We got a potty training book where the froggy has to *stop* and go potty. We also made a point of dramatically announcing when we had to go "uh, oh...mommy has to go pee pee now" and mention that we have to stop cooking dinner, working on the puzzle, etc. That seemed to help.

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M.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

This is totally normal for his age and expect him to have some phases where he does better then worse and then after a while he will just get it. You likely have a while to go before that happens - he is very young and probably isn't completely physically ready even though there are some signs he is mentally ready. Every kid is different. My first daughter started young did great at first and then had a few short relapses here and there. I just never pushed her too much because I found it didn't help - it only caused stress and then she got worse. In fact all I did to train her was show her the "Potty Song" dvd (about 10 min. long) and read a book about it to her every day. Then we bought the potty and just let her go to it when she wanted. I never used pullups - I found they felt like a diaper to her so she just would go in it. The body and mind don't always mature at the same rate. I think it is just hard for them to hold at first! I would suggest giving him a little regular potty time (after meals, after nap) where he is at home and near the potty. This might sound crazy but when my daughter first started I would just let her go without anything on for periods of time when we were just at home. After a while we did big girl pants while at home. Then if we were going out to do something more distracting I would put her back in a diaper. I kept errands short. Then we progressed to big girl pants all day once she was regularly doing both on the potty and asking to take the diaper off to go. It took some time for her to control the peeing every time when we were at the park or store but she never had a poop accident. Whatever you decide to do about the diapers/ underwear I would suggest dropping the broken record part (for your own sanity!) He will get it soon enough and on his own. Don't worry Mama! :)

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A.Y.

answers from Los Angeles on

If he likes pooping in the potty, chances are he will return to peeing in it as well pretty soon, just be patient. At that age, they physically don't have complete control yet-the muscles that control the bladder are not fully developed yet. He probably gets just a tiny bit more warning for the poop, and so he runs to the potty. He also might not like the squishiness in his pants, but doesn't yet mind the wetness. Give it time, and patience, boys will sometimes take until they are four to work it all out. Keep gently giving incentives to do it, but if you push too hard he will probably balk. Good luck!

V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

I wouldn't stress about it. He is pooping, which is excellent! I think my son did #2 first also, and then I never had to worry about "withholding" which is a whole 'nother issue that you will see tons of moms have to deal with...

He does get a little more warning about pooping.. and frankly.. feeling like you need to poop is more uncomfortable than feeling like you need to pee. By the time he can't put it off (with pee) it is probably just too late.

Boys DO have more issues stopping what they are doing (playing) to go use the potty to pee. I don't know why, but they do. What you could do is periodically suggest to him.. "hey, it's been awhile since you went pee pee, want to go try and see if you need to before we start ____ (some new activity)?" Don't push, but happily suggest....
And no negativity about "accidents". He will get it.
If all else fails, you could implement a rewards system. For every success, poop OR pee, he gets a treat as soon as his hands are washed. Some people use stickers.. I used lifesavers candies. The reward was IMMEDIATE so there was immediate reinforcement... no saving up for Friday. The "candy" stage lasted a few months and when he had the potty use down pat, he just quit asking for candy (especially since all that was left around that time was the flavor he didn't care for). :)
hope this helps

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C.A.

answers from Los Angeles on

when a kid is ready it takes a couple days. try pull ups. and he can poop in the potty and pee will be easier to clean up. I am a firm believer in-if they cant pull up/down their own pants they are not ready to be potty trained.

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