Potty Issues. Please Help

Checking some of your other posts let me know that she is about 2 1/2 years old. I don't think you can say she's totally potty trained at that age, even though she may have seemed so for a while. In my experience, when one seems trained that young, there is often a reqression stage they go through. It's frustrating, but something you have to just be patient with, and keep on working with her. One thing you mentioned that I picked up on was taking the small potty out of her room. My opinion, of course, but the child's room doesn't seem the proper place for the potty anyway. Bathroom functions need to be kept in the bathroom. Perhaps having taken that potty out of her room will actually be helpful to you in getting her back on track with her training.
Also, if you have reacted in a strong way to her playing in the potty.. perhaps raising your voice, (and you did mention spanking her), it may be part of the reason she has regressed to peeing everywhere. You do need to be firm when dealing with something like that, because you want them to know it is definitely not ok to do. There is a difference though in being firm and being punitive. Perhaps you can try taking her firmly by the hand and lead her to the sink to wash up while repeating (for the 10,000th time LOL!) that we just don't play in the potty, or toilet because that is gross.... or whatever word you choose to use for it that gets the point across. I know it's difficult when you feel you have to do that sort of thing over, and over, and over again... all in the same day, but it's part of helping these little people learn and grow.

im sorry that is gross but funny at the same time. very unsaitary I know and i have not dealt with this before and wish i had some advice because it is so unsanitary. I hope another mom has dealt with this because I have no clue what to try diffrent than what you are. unless you make her clean up the poop pee mess when she makes it every time and wash her underwear out ini the toilet herself. but for her that wouldnt be a punishment it would be fun.

Put her back into diapers (pull-ups?). Tell her when she's ready to use the potty again the diapers will come off. Don't say "when you can use the potty again I'll take the diapers off." That puts you in control. Give her as much control as possible, or at least maintain that illusion. You might encourage her to tell you when she's ready to take the diapers off.
I had big time struggles with my daughter. We started at 2 1/2 and just now and I would say she is finally fully trained. Her 4th birthday is in a few weeks. I had NO idea it would be such a long process. She adjusted fairly quickly to peeing in the potty, but insisted on using a pull up for poop forever. A few times I told her I wasn't going to buy any more, and that changing her poopy pull up was really yucky for me. We'd run out, but she would get so upset and desperate I would finally give her a nighttime diaper and buy more pullups. Finally, about a month ago, I said I wouldn't buy more pull ups and she did it. I made sure to give her plenty of fiber for a few days so she could poop easily.
Good luck and take the pressure off you both.

Your daughter's toilet should be in the bathroom. Some people are very aggressive about potty training - take the child into the bathroom every hour, etc. I am the lazy mom: my daughters' stayed in diapers until they expressed interest in using the toilet. One was using the toilet at 3 1/2 and one at 3. Both had virtually no accidents once they got started, except occasionally at night. I see you have a 4 MO so I imagine you are very tired. I would put your 2 1/2 YO in diapers and not worry about it for a while. And keep the toilet out of her bedroom. That reinforces the message that the toilet is not a toy. Good-luck.

Well, I've potty trained all four of my kids (oldest is now 17, youngest is nearly 4) and I think it is one of the hardest parts of parenting because they have control over it. The best thing I can tell you is to be patient. I wasn't sure how old she was so I looked at another one of your posts and see that you have another little one at home as well. Rest assured her regressing is not unusual and definitely not permanent. She's probably feeding off your reaction and let's face it, it's nearly impossible to not react when you step in pee or have to clean it up for the umpteenth time. Kind of a vicious cycle. Hang in there, just keep up the potty training (keep the chair in the bathroom since that's where she'll be going eventually anyhow) and rewards/praise when she does it right. When she makes a mess, have her help you clean it up but try not to make too big a deal over it. If it makes you feel any better, my youngest went through a phase where he pooped in the backyard like the dog whenever he got the chance. Lovely aren't they? lol Hang in there mama!

I would give her back the control. Put her back in diapers and tell her when she goes four days w/out wetting them she can have the prize of shopping with you for brand new big girl underwear. Then let her pick them out for herself. I found that my daughter was REALY excited to do this (who knew?!)

Get rid of the baby potty in her room. My kids only used theirs to play with too. If she is ready for the big girl potty then I think it is great for her to use the "real" big girl potty.