Potty Issues - Tallahassee,FL

When my daughter has wet the bed, her neck is ALWAYS out of alignment. When her neck is in alignment, she does not ever wet the bed. I don't tell the chiropractor that she is wetting, so I know he isn't just claiming she is out. The chiropractor she sees uses sound waves to make adjustments - no neck cracking! You don't feel anything, but the proof is in the results. We haven't taken her for awhile. We do make her go to the bathroom RIGHT before bed and we get her up about 9:00 - 9:30 to go again. Even when she is "out," we normally get her in time.

When I was young, I'm embarassed to say how long I peed the bed, but she'll outgrow it! Meanwhile, you're right to restrict fluids before bedtime, also get a plastic mattress cover. You can have her strip her bed in the morn when she wets and put in the washer. For a time I wore a device that is supposed to wake you up when you start to pee, I don't re.ember it working but technology has prob advanced and better stuff know so you can ask your pediatrician. I'm positive she's just as frustrated as you, so try to stay calm and positive. Good luck!

For one thing u are going through a divorce so that's a lot of change for ur 6yr old. But she is old enough to know better . My experince with 4 kids here i make them clean there self up and that helped them not to pee or poop anymore. Good luck

T.,

As a wife of a chiropractor I wish more mother's with the problem of their children wetting the bed at night or having problems with their children holding their urine were aware that having your child's lower back adjusted can in most cases resolve this problem. When children are trying and frustrated it is many times just a symptom of their nervous system not communicating as it should. Chiropractic is wonderful for helping this problem and in many cases it can be resolved in a few treatments. I hope this helps, I know how frustrating this problem can be especially when you are juggling so much:)
Deb Krusing

she just needs to slow down the drinking before bed time.................&remind her some during the day of going to potty, girls sometime want attention ,hope this helps have a blessed day M.

Just going by your siggy, has this started happening since the divorce and your starting to work? If that is the case, then I think the only thing you can do is spend as much time with her as possible and reassure her everything will be okay. Talk to her about the changes and that she is still loved etc.

If it isn't related, then for the time being I would continue the pull-up at night. Maybe she is just a really hard sleeper and doesn't wake up when she needs to pee. Or is she scared of something at night? If that is the case, she might just be too scared to get out of bed and go potty. So she holds it as long as she can and then of course has an accident.

During the day I would start making her go potty every so often. Especially after drinking. No choice in the matter, just explain that you are helping her remember to go every so often. That way there will be no more accidents.

Big hugs!!

My sister was a very sound sleeper and did the same. She just didn't feel the need to go because she was so sound asleep. As she got older, her bladder got bigger and she learned to wake up.

My mom used to "sleep walk" her to the toilet every night, whenever my mom went to bed. She'd just take her in and sit her on the toilet, run a little water, and my sister would go. So between the 8pm bedtime pee, and the 11pm sleepwalk pee, she usually didn't wet the bed.

Hope you find an answer!

Being a older bed wetter (I did until I started my first period), they never found out why I was doing it. It seemed the more i tried, then more I wet. I think it came down to a phycological issue. But PLEASE don't make your child go through all the testing. It will make it all that much worse. Just give the love and support and encouragement to try and stay dry.

Keep her in the pull-ups, and start to teach her to change her sheets. If you make a big deal about it, it will only prolong the issues and she will start feeling really bad and the problem wont resolve. Good luck

She might still have a very strong Galant reflex. Google primitive reflexes and read about it.

The nighttime issue may be just what the first poster mentioned.. she is just too asleep to feel the urge and sleeps through it. I don't think that's all that uncommon. My son was the same way.. even at 9 years old, it was an occasional problem...

Also, bedwetting seems to have some hereditary patterns too. Were either you or your husband bedwetters? Ask your parents.. you may not even know it or remember it.

Heavy deep sleepers are just too deep in their sleep to waken enough to feel the urge. I did the "sleepwalk" potty trip with my son for years. He was daytime perfect, but at night...he was made to use the potty just before bed, and then I would "wake" him (actually half carried him out of bed to the bathroom) and stand him in front of the toilet. He would still be so asleep that sometimes I had to help him aim! As soon as he was done he would flush, yank his undies up, and practically run back to bed and was sound asleep again. He never remembered the next day having been gotten up to use the bathroom. This went on for a looooong time. On the occasions I would forget to take him that one last time just before I went to bed... he would usually wet during the wee hours. Occasionally he would come tell me (4 am or so) but as he got older (and probably it happened later in the night due to his growing bladder) he would not even realize until he was getting up for the day.

There is nothing wrong with using pull-ups at night for extra insurance, but I would highly recommend you try the "sleepwalk" potty trip instead. She might get a "complex" about wearing "diapers" at night if any of her school friends discover it.

Be patient with her during the day, too. She is going through a lot herself with the divorce of her parents. :)

I would have to concur with what Heather mentioned. If this started happening during the time all the divorce stuff was happening, it may be a result of that. I don't know all the science/psychology of it, but I know that it is common. When my brother- and sister-in-law got divorced, their daughter, who had been potty trained already, started having problems like that with wetting her pants and wetting the bed. Try a search on the internet to see what helps in this case, but it may be more emotional than physical. Perhaps some others who have gone through a divorce and had this problem can add what helped them. Good luck! That must be frustrating!

She may have an under developed bladder. My sistern in law is a pediatrician and told me the same about my son. He is 7. His father had the same problem as well. We use "pull ups" but we call them evening underwears and none of his friends know about it as we keep this between us. He tries really hard and we have explained to him that his body is still growing and trying to catch up with him. His body is maturing and soon it will stop doing this.

My son is six and a half and we have the same night time issue. He still wears a pull-up, we don't make a big deal about it. The ped. says it is something he will grow out of as his bladder gets bigger to accomodate his fluid intake. He is a deep sleeper and both my husband and I were bedwetters. I did find a removable waterproof pad that fits his full size bed that I put on top of his fitted sheet. The pull-up holds the urine most of the time, but at least twice a week, it goes beyond that and wets the pad. I just pull that off and wash it and place it back on before he goes to sleep. I think I got it off of the "One Step Ahead" website. My son is a happy, well-rounded, active kid. I tried to do the "sleepwalking" technique and got him up around 11 p.m. before I went to sleep. That worked well, but he is so heavy (nearly 80 pounds) that I cannot lift him and help him maneuver his way without fear of him falling over and hurting himself.
Good Luck!

at age 6, the first thing is to look for emotional issues....and you have one right there, with your recent divorce. I wouldn't be surprised if this is causing the problem. Your daughter may benefit from a few sessions with a child psychologist, to help her adjust to the divorce....her potty problem may magically correct itself.

You seem to be doing all of the more common remedies for this problem. The only additional thing that I would do at this point is to have your daughter to go to the bathroom before she has strong urges or, at times, just to "empty". If this still does not remedy the problem, take her to a doctor for a routine exam.(Please do not consent to extensive or unnecessary tests that some doctors may recommend.) If the routine exam does not reveal any major problems, this will probably be something that she will eventually "grow" out of (especially if there is a history of bed wetters in the family).