Potting Training

I'm a huge fan of the book "Toilet Training in Less than a Day". I was very skeptical when told of the book, but tried it when nothing else worked. I started at 7 am, and by lunch my daughter was fully trained.

I am in the same boat. The only difference is I have a son and he will pee pee in the potty if I sit him on it. He just won't tell me he has to go. I have tried not to push him because I don't want him to think of the potty negatively. Hopefully someone will respond with a magical way to help both of us.

One suggestion I have is to take a few days which are just dedicated to potty training. One week during the summer while the older two were at Vacation Bible School. I stayed home all day with my youngest. I allowed him to drink whatever he wanted and every 20 minutes I put him on the potty. I did not let him wear pullups. Sometimes he went and sometimes he didn't. But what happened was that as time went on he began to recognize what it felt like when he had to go and when he didn't. Of course in the beginnng we celebrated him actually going in the potty, but at the end of the week he was telling me when he had to go. I did not have to do this with the other two but for some reason this is what it took to get him potty trained. Hope this helps.
By the way I live in Okinawa too. We've been here 3 and 1/2 years and even though it is far from home we love it.

My oldest was very easy to potty train. Now my youngest on the other hand didn't want anything to do with it. We tried everything and I finally just gave up. My husband ended up telling my daughter, 'that's it, the diapers are gone'. Of course they weren't, they were just hidden from her. It ends up she knew when she had to go, she just wouldn't. I guess as long as there was a backup (the diapers), she figured she could go the rest of her life and not have to deal with the potty. I wish I had some great advice for you, but I don't. I've heard that they'll go when they're ready. I'm not sure about that one. lol Good luck to you and I hope you can figure it out soon.

have you tried getting the musical potty. my friend daughter loved it.

Hi,

I am a Air Force wife,
I had the same problem with my girl. We ended getting orders just as she started getting hang of it, It was time to start getting things packed up, I ended up haveing to start over again once get got settled in cause I ended up putting a diaper on her on the plane that started out in Maryland to Germany. All I have to say is keep with what you are dueing she will get it, it took my daughter a couple of years before she stopped not makeing it to the toliet, once she starts to get the right Idiea don't forget to remind her to go. One of the things My daughter did when we was out she would ask can we go home in stead of saying I have to pea, It took me a few times to figure out what she was really sayin.

J., I feel your pain, I am having similar problems with my Cass she will be 3 in May. Since her dad left on training to California she doesn't want to go to the potty like she did when things were normal. Is anything out of the ordinary at home? She goes to CDC and her progress reports say she is still going on the potty there but she won't at home. Just keep encouragement up. Heck when I go to the potty it's cute she tells me "Good Job Mommy, Good Job" lol!

Sounds like a battle of the wills to me. Some children feel the need to control the situation. I would say, let her set the pace and don't let her know how important it is to you. If she feels she is no longer getting the attention, she may just do it to get the attention back. You are frustrated and working even harder to make this happen. She may like that attention. So, keep making it available but don't force it. If she initiates it, ham it up and do all you can to reward the behavior. All children are different in their stages. She is physically able to do it but emotionally maybe she just doesn't want to. Some children can get it as early as 18 months and others are over 3 years old. So don't be discouraged if she is "behind" your son. She is her own person and will get it in her own time.

J.,

Don't stress about this! T. Berry Brazelton (the kid expert)says the ideal age for potty training is three years! I got my daughter a great DVD called "Potty Power" which really got her interested in using the potty. Also, don't be afraid to use bribery. We rewarded my daugher with an M&M each time she used the potty.

We were in Okinawa many, many years ago! We loved it!

hey how are you. i have a 3 year old who was doing the same to me a few months ago. i just started keeping her in the gerber training panties. they are soft on the inside like big girl panties, and plastic on the outside. she may pee in them a few times but we all live and learn. just change her eveytime she pee's and she will get the hint i cant have diapers. i still put diapers on my child at night but she finally got the no diapers durning the day hint. everything will go great for you. the key is to also ask her every 20 minutes or so, do you have to pee. if she says no, then dont make her. but make her go try at least once an hour. dont forget to tell her she is a big girl and that you are proud of her, even if she has an accident. good luck you are a great mom. G.