Hi, I am a mother of 2 beautiful girls. my oldest is 4, and was a breeze to pottie train, i was home full time and she was trained by 2yrs old. with my youngest, i went back to work this year, and she just turned 2 and is not pottie trained. i have tried everything that i, my mom and the babysitter can think of to get her trained. she likes wearing panties, and will take herself to the pottie, but she will not use the pottie, she will hold her urine for 3hrs, i timed her, before wetting her panties. we have set for 20 minutes in the bathroom on the potties and when she is removed she will wet her panties. she can tell me that she is wet,she speaks very well, but will not say she has to go to the pottie. she will say she has to go to the bathroom, but when taken she will not use it, just sits there. she can sleep thru the night and not wet, so she is holding a long time. HELP. any and all suggestions will help.
thank you all for your help. i have calmed down. she is just not ready. but she tells me after the fact every time that she is wet. and she sings a song with it. the babysitter sings when they go pottie. she says it relaxes them and makes them eager to use the pottie. she has used the pottie once for the sitter. so i will learn to sing tooo.
Each child is different. I would wait for her to be ready, most of my friends kids and mine didn't fully potty train until three (boys and girls). So I wouldn't put any pressure on her and wait. I know it costs more money when they are not potty trained and going to day care, but maybe she feels pressured or stressed about it? Good luck!
It sounds like she has some anxiety about it. I would step back and not put any more pressure on her. Forget about potty training for a few months, and then try again. Then, try to make it a positive experience for her. Good Luck!
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Honestly I would put her back in diapers and wait a few more months before trying again. She is doing what a lot of 2 year old children do... showing she has control over at least one thing in life.. her pee... Take away the thing she likes "panties" and tell her those are only for "big girls". Let her know that when she goes potty for 2 days in a row without an accident she can get them back.. Giving a child everything they want when they don't do what is required does not help them learn. This will also take away the stress on all that are trying to work with her. I have been doing child care since 1983 and have seen children up to 4 years of age not want to be trained, no matter what their parents tried. But I have yet to see any of them go to kindergarden in diapers. Hope that helps...
She has to be ready. If she is not ready, it will not work.
Try not to push her. Every child is different, so she may not master pottie training until she is 3. Hope this will help. When she is ready, you will know! Patience.....
