E.,
First of all, none of the tests for Down syndrome are very accurate and can be skewed either way except for the amnio. The amnio is definitive genetic testing. So don't panic yet. It may turn out fine.
There are also ultrasound measurements that can be taken for hard and soft markers for Down syndrome (my son had several soft markers so we did the amnio just so we didn't have to wonder for months).
It was a tough 10 days waiting for the amnio results and the diagnosis of Down syndrome scared me terribly, but we had tried for 2 years to have a child and nothing would have kept us from having him.
I want you to know that if you get the diagnosis of Down syndrome, you can contact me directly at ____@____.com. I have an absolutely amazing son with Down syndrome who has taught me soo very much. I love him with all my heart and soul and wouldn't have it any other way.
Kevin is now 7 years old, he can read on a first grade level, he knew his alphabet from the time he was 2, knew the sounds of the letters from about 2 1/2 to 3, his colors, shapes, numbers. All the things other kids did.
He has difficulty running and can't really jump and has a hard time righting. He did have health problems but he's much better now.
I'm not going to tell you it's not hard, but it's not easy raising any child and life doesn't give us guarantees for typical children either.
I wanted to give you a mother's perspective because if you get the diagnosis, your doctors will probably assume you will abort (90% of people taking an amnio and getting a diagnosis of D.s. abort). But most of the time, there's not a balanced picture and they dont' give you info until you decide to keep the child.
I do understand the fear, I was absolutely terrified when I found out. I didn't know if I knew how to be a mother to a child with a disability. I'm not judging either, but just wanting to give you the other side of the coin if you will.
If you want to know more, I can send you resources and info, photos, other mom connections... whatever. Just email me.