Pooping His Pants

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He's still learning... it is a learning curve.
NO child is perfect about pottying.
He is fine.
Don't pressure.
If pressure, sometimes a child will NOT poop at all.... no matter what. Then they become constipated and need medical intervention. That happened to my daughter. Even if we did not force her.
It just causes "anxiety" and stress in a child. That whole process.

Let him be.
He will get it.
My son is the same way, same age.
I am proud of him.

So my answer is completely different from those posted thus far. It is only a thought... My daughter, who is also 3, was completely trained for about two months when she started having the same kinds of accidents. She would poop a little bit and run to the bathroom to go. I was cleaning underwear constantly and was very frustrated. I ended up taking her to the doctor where it was discovered that she was actually constipated. Even though her BM's were often soft, sometimes a bit liquidy in the underwear, she wasn't emptying for quite some time and an x-ray showed how backed up she really was. It was incredible. She started Miralax about six weeks ago and about two weeks ago it completely ended!!! No accidents. And everything is different when she goes.

My neighbor had told me this same scenario about her daughter and I didn't believe it. I put up with the frustration for weeks before bringing her in. I should have listened to my neighbor. It would have saved a lot of frustration. It wouldn't hurt to bring him in to the doctor and, if nothing else, get some advice.

Good luck!!!

In my experience, it is a developmental thing. I was also told by a dr. that it is often harder for boys to 'feel' it coming, as they pee in a completely different area of the body, so they have to get used to that new feeling. If it makes you feel any better, my almost 5 year old still has 'accidents' when he goes a little bit of poop in his underwear, much to my dismay. I have used a sticker system for a while- if he has clean underwear after going poop, he get to pick his Thomas sticker to put on the chart- he seemed to really look forward and get excited about that. I think (knock on wood) he is now about past that stage, but it did seem to last way to long for my comfort. :) Good luck. Deep breathe...this too shall pass.

First..the battle will be over sooner than you expect. From the sounds of it you are making terrific headway!!! Alot of Kids go thru a stage with BM's that they actually start going before they reach the bathroom and this is perfectly normal, although messy it is normal. Just encourage him that when he has to go... to go!!! As far as the fits go... don't give in to him or react to his outburst.. just simple state a fact and do as you stay. He will get the idea very quickly that it is a normal routine just like brushing teeth or taking a bath. And don't ask if he needs to go.. just stay it is time to go the the bathroom now..take his hand and lead him there. He will get the idea that if he goes on his own he will have more control and therefore you will have fewer accidents. Also..be sure he is in big boy pants and not in pull ups. Good Luck! and keep your patience and faith..this too will be over shortly

Just a thought; it might not be the case for you--but my first son was very frustrated by people who "made" him try to pee at their designated times. My parents and in-laws would always say, Do you need to go potty before bed, before nap, before going outside, before leaving...they still do, and he's 6...and we've never, ever had a problem with him not giving us enough warning to get to where he could pee, so I think he might have been kinda resentful of people telling him differently from what he knew.