Pool Bday Party Invitation / My Child Doesn't like Her Eyes Wet:)

Bring her floation devices and let her wear them to play. This isn't swim lessons, it's supposed to be fun. She needs to feel comfortable enough to have a good time.

Parents don't stay for kids parties here, and my kids can swim, so that has not come up.

Is it a private pool or public pool?

If they go to a pool party at a private home pool the pool would be too crowded for kids and parents to swim, unless it is a big pool or a small party.

If they are at a public pool they would have to stay in the shallow end if they can't swim their laps to get into the deep end, unless they are with an adult. Public pools here do not allow flotation devices for non swimmers in the deep end.

My kids are bothered by pool water in their eyes, so they always wear goggles.

I love to swim, so if I were at a pool party with my kids, and all the other parents were swimming, I would also swim.

Just ask your daughter what she wants. Does she have swim goggles? I would bring all the gear but let her do whatever she's comfortable with.

Its a kids' party.
They are 6.
Sure, why not go in the water with your kid.
I don't see it as a big deal, for you nor the other parents.
Here, we are surrounded by ocean. There are also many pools around.
And per birthday pool parties, even at 6, or 7 or even 8 years old etc. the parents are allowed to stay if they want and swim, TOO.
And they do. Even the Host, swims and goes in the pool.
Many parents like swimming. And the parties are for all.
It is not only for little kiddies.
And if you bring a swim ring or whatever, then you need to ask the Host if it is allowed. Some pools, public or condos, do not allow it. For example.

And so what if all the other 6 year olds can swim and are on the swim "team" and your child is not.
My kids at that age, did not swim well enough yet.
And they didn't like their eyes wet either. That is why they had goggles.
So what.
Just go in with your daughter. Put on her goggles.
She will have fun.

Does she have goggles? Go in with her, so she is comfortable and safe, and keep it simple.

If other parents are swimming I would be in the pool too. Let daughter decide when she wants floats on her arms or something else. You can wrap it in your towel so it's not obvious it's there. Then if she needs it you'll have it right there. You might call the parents too and find out if they have some on hand. Some family's don't get rid of all that stuff when their kids don't need it anymore, they save it for guests.

I would bring the gear, then hold on to it until she asks for it. Wear your swimwear under your regular clothes so if she wants you to, you can swim with her.

Just follow her lead. :)

Not sure what her swimming device is, but I wouldn't bring it to a six year old party. I'm assuming it is some kind of floatie, which really is better for younger kids and your daughter might get teased. She could bring a kickboard though.

If she's playing in the shallow end, there's no need for you to dive in with her, as long as you're nearby and watching. If she wants to go to the deep end, it's up to you - either sit very close to the pool or get in and swim nearby.

My son is six and he and his friends are always happy to swim with their parents - it's not embarrassing to them - so if you're more comfortable being in with her, just do it.

Living in Vegas, just about every other home has a pool...except ours, as we have enough room to put a bathtub in the backyard.

Anyway, my daughter is now 7 and she is finally excelling in swimming. She seemed much like your daughter, it wasn't that big of a deal to her. Every summer, I put her in swim lessons and didn't listen to any fussing about whether she wanted to or not. I continued to tell her, if she was going to live in Vegas, she was going to learn to swim. Now that she has passed all of her swim classes, she likes it and just did a triathlon. I think people/kids just don't like the things they struggle with.

So the party is too close to add some extra swim classes, so I suggest if she likes the friend and wants to attend the party, take her and hop in the pool with her. Even if you are just on stand by. Bring her a noodle and she can hang on to that while she floats around and plays with the kids.

I live in Tampa Bay so yes, it's still swimming weather. Although today is a windows open day.

Not all kids are strong swimmers. My 7 and 8 olds are ok, but not strong like others. I would get in the pool and be ready to help her if needed.

Have fun!

Ditto Mamazita.

Be sure to remember the goggles.
My kids swim at home with and without goggles. But they have neglected to take them with them to other people's pools and come home with burning eyes. It is easy for that to happen, because with so many people in the water at a home pool, where there are typically not that many people swimming, the alkalinity of the pool gets thrown off easily. THAT is what burns the eyes. Most people think it is too much chlorine, but more often than not, it is an imbalance in the pH.
Goggles can prevent red burning eyes.

Most pool parties take place in the shallow water....she doesn't have to go in the deep water...how deep is the shallow end? Can she stand up? If so, she should be fine unless she's super small.

I know this does nothing for your immediate pool party concerns, but if swim parties happen often throughout the year, don't you think it might be wise to get your daughter some lessons so she is comfortable in the water, and most important, SAFE? She should be a decent swimmer by now. No, she does not have to excel on the swim team, but she should be able to be in the water without a device and without you right there next to her.

We are attending or she is going to a party. Why would you go and why would you go in the water with her. Let her have fun with her friends. Any pool party my kids ever went to had x amount of adults to watch kids or a lifeguard. If all parents stay, that is a recipe for disaster. They get involved talking and forget about the kids. Let your child bring what she is allowed to bring.

We live on a Great Lake and we made sure that all of our children had swimming lessons and could swim before the age of 6. It's time to avoid this issue in the future and put your daughter in swimming lessons, it's a necessary skill for those of us who live near large bodies of water.

For this party, I would be in the water with my child, and I would bring swim wings or whatever she is comfortable with. At that age, for my kids who were strong swimmers, I always kept an eye on them when they were in the water (didn't depend on the lifeguard) but it depended on the situation as to whether or not I actually went in with them. If it was in the lake - how deep the water was at that beach, size of the waves, etc... But at a pool, they were usually ok without me right there, but I still kept a close eye.

Start swim lessons if you can afford them.