Please Help!!!! Need Potty Training Advise!!!!!!

I'm trying to potty train my son right now, and he will be 3 in January. Some days are better than others. I try not to push too hard with him, because he goes when he wants to. He goes to daycare and does great up there, but at home not so well. I think if they start getting upset about it and freaking out, that's when you need to backoff. Going potty shouldn't be a traumatic thing to them. It should be a great and wonderful thing that they are doing. (as silly as that sounds)
Keeping taking cues from her, and if she seems hesitant about it, then back off. I've been working on potty training my son since about May and we are still taking baby steps. I know that he will get it eventually. I've yet to see a kid start kindergarten who wasn't potty trained.

Does she cry when pees in a diaper if not then I would not worry about her having any kind of UTI. I did the three day potty training guide with my daughter at 26 months and it only took three days. They say that you should start it when they are 22 months old because that is the perfect age. If you run into problems then stop wait at least 3 weeks and try again. She might be scared give her some time and try later.

Too young. Give her more time. If you think she is afraid of the toilet, then have her sit fully dressed on the potty with the lid down every day around the same time and read her a book. My son's pedi suggested this when he was afriad and it worked like a charm. Do it for 2-3 weeks every day. Good luck. My son wasn't trained until after his 4th birthday!

I tried a couple of times before my daughter finally got it. one time she had a bunch of accidents and then completely lost it, was an emotional basket case (about 22 months old). So I stopped and came back in a few months and she did wonderful. She showed everyone of the signs at 22 months, but just didn't seem ready to commit. At 2.5 I tried again and it worked like a dream. She has been diaper free for a month now, yeah!!!

They say unless their diapers are dry at least 2 hours that their kidneys aren't ready yet to potty train, Does she go that long. ? And if she cries whey she pee's i am wondering if she is a little raw or has a kidney infection, sometimes that makes it burn when they go. just a thought.

My daughter is 2yrs old and we started potty training her.We bought traing pants and a potty because she was showing signs that she was ready. Everthing was going great except the pooping part and she started to say she didn't want pullups anymore and refused to go on the potty so we pulled back from potty traing because she was starting to cry from doing it and we didn't want to force her too much and scare her.That was this summer we took a break and started just recently. She's doing great now with going on the potty even the pooping.I just switched her into panties in the afternoon and told her she needs to go on the potty and don't forget. She has accidents but that's only because i think sometimes she forgets she doesn't have a pamper on anymore. When we go out to places i still put a diaper on her but she still asks to go potty wherever we are at.So right now i would take a break from it and just talk to her and keep reminding her she needs to start going on the potty cause she's a big girl.Then eventually you will know when she's ready to start back up again. I hope this will help a little. Good Luck!

I would check first to see if she has an infection (UTI, bladder) that's causing pain. The doctor can test her easily for that. Once you have ruled that out, I would go easy with her if you aren't sure she's ready. Some kids would be old enough at this age & others not so much. It really goes by individual maturity levels & temperament.

We didn't even bother starting with our son until he was nearly three. We started by giving him his new, unused potty to tote around the house. We said nothing about poo or pee at first. He sat in it while he watched tv or listened to a book. It became 'his' and so he didn't find it scary or threatening. He was actually kind of posessive about it.

After about a week, we explained that the potty would stay in the bathroom & if he wanted to sit on it while Mommy read a book to him, he would need to pull down his pants & sit on it in the bathroom. I sat on the floor next to him everyday after meals about the time he normally dirtied his diaper and first read a book by Dr. Sears for kids about learning to use the potty. It was extremely simple with pictures of another little boy going through the motions. Then we would usually look at a book like Richard Scarry's Cars & Trucks & Things that Go. Something that had a lot of detail & interest for him & kept him happily seated on the potty for a good 20 minutes.

Most of the time we'd be reading and he would be completely distracted and all of a sudden he'd go potty. He'd look at me like, "What was that?" I'd smile & clap & say, "You went potty in your big boy potty just like Johnny in the book!" We'd make a big deal about his 'success'. Then I'd let him 'do the honors' of dumping the contents into the toilet and flushing. He loved it. We'd clean him up and go to the kitchen for an M&M reward. He got one M&M for pee & two for poopie.

My husband was just as involved when he was home, so Jack saw the whole thing as fun & a great way to get lots of positive attention from Mom & Dad both. We'd ask him from time to time if he needed to go, but we didn't fuss when he had accidents. We just acted like they were not very interesting as we cleaned him up. The M&M's, story time & positive reinforcement were enough to keep him coming back on his own after a week or so.

I laugh at this memory, because the only times he'd really get upset were when he'd try to go & couldn't. He wanted an M&M & the thrill of success more than anything! Of course we always praised him for trying, but no M&M's. He had the hang of things within two weeks & we were completly beyond all daytime accidents in just a few months. :)

She is pretty young so you may want to wait awhile but in the meantime get the book "Potty Training in less than a day". It works and it is fun for both child and parent. A.

As long as the child knows that pee and poop go into a toilet sometimes, then after that it is up to them to decide that's where they want to put their pee and poop. Mine were not ready until 3.5 and 2.5. I would offer her a choice: pull ups or underwear, and let her decide. Then try to encourage her a few weeks later. I would get potty training videos to spark their interest off and on. But really just one day they just decided to do it, but still have accidents sometimes. Try reading the potty training section from "What to Expect, the Toddler Years," it helped me understand the process. Hang in there!

I would just follow your gut. She's not even officially 2 yet. So you might back off, so she doesn't feel like it's a big deal. She'll let you know when she's ready to try again. We started with my son around two, and it was a year before he was totally potty trained. Sometimes it's just a long process with 1 step forward and 2 steps back. Good luck!

It certainly doesn't sound good to have her associate crying and going and getting rewarded. Now, if she doesn't cry when he wets her diaper,that should rule out some kind of urinary infection I should think. ? Perhaps back off a bit in encouraging her to go in the potty. Make sure you don't reprimand her when she does. Take her with you a lot when you go so she can see it isn't scary for you but don't say things like, "See, Mommy doesn't cry.." Read her a book several times about little kids getting potty trained. See what happens from there.

My son did the same thing and his daycare teacher told me to leave him alone for a couple of weeks because he wasn't ready. I waited about 3 weeks (eternity for me) and I started again making a huge deal over his accomplishments. I gave him treats (bought fruit snacks and toys from the dollar store) as a reward and it worked!

L.,
When i potty trained my two daughters I used M&M as a reward. When they went potty they got to choose one. We also danced around after they did it. The pee pee potty dance. Remember girls are harder to train then boys. We decided to put our youngest one in panties so she could feel what it was like to be wet. She didnt like it in her diaper and would take it off so we thought panites would help. It did help us. It seemed like the dance and M&M's did the job for us. Good luck. It will happen just takes time

Sh might have a UTI or bladder infection-- my daughter got two of those while potty training. Be sure to ALWAYS wipe from front to back. If she acts like she has to go and then cries when peeing call the pediatrician, she might need some antibiotics.
Good Luck!

This poses many questions in my mind.....are you anxious/tense about the "training" and could that be coming across in your voice or actions? Babies are very in tune to us moms....otherwise I don't see why she's crying to be honest....I wouldn't push it if she's tired or ill either. Consistency is the key and switching back and forth between training pants (I'm assuming you're using some type of trainers?) and diapers is too confusing and you will enable her to "forget" if you do that. You have to be willing to tolerate "accidents" because they can and WILL happen and it isn't a matter of her being bad or good, it's timing and control. Yours and hers. You need to remind her, and OFTEN by asking "do you need to go potty?" or whatever term you're using and make a big deal of big girl panties as a reward for success. I hope you realize that it is a matter of months, not days for potty training? It's a lot of time and energy but it must be done.....either in a natural and good way or I think some people traumatize their kids accidentally, too much pressure is tough but consistency and not giving up is important for you both.

You may need to wait a little while, but if I were you I'd take her to the doctor to make sure she doesn't have a UTI. It's actually common for girls who are potty training to get them, it can be caused by not wiping from front to back. This happened to my best friend's little girl. If she's crying, maybe it hurts! I'd get her checked out just to be safe. Good Luck

She's still young so if it were me I think I would maybe wait a couple of months and then try again. Good luck.

I thought my daughter was ready, but she wasn't. She was just too young. I stopped for awhile and started back up again later. Their long term memory isn't really great at ths point so I don't think it causes problems trying in the future. She did much better the next time around.

L.

Is she using the big potty or a small kids size potty? that might make the difference. We had trouble with our son not using the big potty, so we got a small potty that sits across from the big potty. He uses it fine, I would keep her in underwear so not to confuse her. Good luck, I know it is frustrating.