D.S.
Hi T.,
I am so sorry your family is going through this. It does sound like you are in a very difficult situation. It seems from what you wrote that you feel your husband would not respond to therapy, but unless you have made up your mind you do not want to stay with him you might want to consider marital counseling or at least go to treatment yourself so that you can work through your emotions and everything that is going on in your life. It might seem that divorce is the best answer even after you receive treatment, but at least then you might be emotionally strong enough to make good decisions for you and your child. Keep in mind that although your husband might seem like he does not care about you and your son he might be missing spending time with you since it sounds you two do not spend time together and have not been intimate in two years! If you opt for divorce there are things to keep in mind apart from the financial. Your husband might want custody of your son, at least some of the time, and you need to be ready for such discussions/possibilities before you go down that road. Whatever options you take do note that your husband's behavior is affecting your son, the shouting and breaking of things in the home is not acceptable behavior and your son should not be exposed to it. Your son will learn to treat you with the level of respect he sees others treat you and he will learn to manage anger/cope with emotions in the way he sees others in his life react so you might want to opt for treatment (or a decision) sooner rather than later. Reach out for support from your family, you need someone in your corner. Good luck!