I do not need to say much to you on this. You know what I have been through.
There is ALWAYS a silver lining, you just need to be patient and wait for it to show itself. Have faith that there is work being done behind the scenes here, that no O. is in control of.
Sunny days have never been so beautiful. Cold air never look so inviting.
Everything I do from the simple things like breathing, to the hard stuff like being a mom and wife, is so much more enjoyable, just knowing I am alive to be going through it.
I went from being a self centered person. too living for others as the only thing I have to do. Cause it is. and it will be this way until it is my time to finally take my last curtain call.
Be strong for her. She is going to need to be allowed to be scared for a bit. Staring mortality down is a very intimidating thing. she may go through periods when she does not want anyone around. Do not listen to her. Be there. Even if she does not see you. Be there to help the family. Cook. Clean. run her errands when she is not feeling up to it.
When she pulls through to the other side of this, you guys will be strong. she will realize you didnt abandon her at her worst. And for that she will forever be thankful for you.
The reason those things no longer feel important(and I have been dealing with my fair share of these new odd emotions right now, because I am so excited just to be here with my family the holidays themselves do not seem as important)is because they really do not matter when it comes right down to it. Those are just days we have given ourselves to celebrate. You can have Thanksgiving any time you want to and the True meaning of Christmas is not about the prefect gifts. They are merely just times we need to reflect back on the ones we loves and be thankful they are with us.
Fighting for ones life is not something we think about having to do, until we are in the middle of it. Then it feels like the world and everything in it is closing in around you. Push it back and make her see she is strong enough to pull through this. This maybe the nasty chapter in her life she was not wanting to write. But she will get through. You will get through.
I LOVE YOU LADY! YOU KNOW THIS.
You are a great person and I know you will offer your friend the Love and Support she is going to be needing.