Personal Question - Addison,IL

Please call the doctor. It is probably not a big deal, but I just recovered from endometral/uteran (sorry about spelling) cancer, had a complete hysterectomy and am now saying that it would always be in your favor to make sure you are fine. I was hurting and it looked my husband thought I was making this up. You could just have a bladder infection, cysts or fibroids and nothing that is a big deal. I am on my soapbox about getting everything checked because I just had the biggest scare of my life. Now I know I have to go for pap smears four times a year for the next couple of years. If I can get everyone to at least get their yearly pap smear I might have a reason why this happened to me and perhaps save you from worying about it or feeling pain. Please write if you need anymore answers about this.

Sounds like you need to make an appt with your gyne ASAP. Sex should not be painful. How miserable!

so sorry you're having this. You should definitely get in with your gyne. You also need to tell your husband. There is no reason to keep this from him and he needs to know why you may not "be in the mood." My husband and I talk openly about sex frequently. It can be hard to talk about the first time, but it is so very helpful to make sure you're on the same page, you're both happy with freqency, you know how the other wants to be approached about doing it or how they would best handle being turned down. These are things you should be talking about. I hope your doctor is able to get to the bottom of the pain issue and resolve it easily!

It could be alot of things: Interstitial Cystitis, a gynelogical issue, etc. You should definately go see a doctor and get yourself checked out. I also agree with the other mama... talk to your husband. You don't want him to take it personal and you don't need to be taking one for the team and covering up the pain. Get yourself looked at and don't do any "painful activities" until you get a clean bill of health... you don't want to make it worse for yourself. If something hurts, its your body's way of telling you to cut-it-out! :) Good luck!

it could also be an ovarian cyst. does it hurt at all when you sit? i agree, call your dr. sorry, tmi, but were you lubricated enough?

Hi T. - There are things your gynecologist should be able to help you with for the pain issue. But keep in mind not all gyne's are specialists in dealing with pain problems. If your doc doesn't seem to be getting to the bottom of it or if they don't take it seriously enough, then seek another doc. If you need some referrals, email me through this site. I hope things get better for you soon!

Ouch! That sounds very uncomfortable. Definitely see your doctor to rule anything medical out. Sounds like this isn't the first time, but perhaps something that's been going on for awhile is getting worse?

Sex should be pleasurable for both you & your husband. Does he know what is going on? I don't know what your relationship with your husband is like-ideally you could communicate openly with him, including asking him to stop even though you are in the middle of intercourse -and you do have a right to ask him to stop & expect him to honor your needs/requests. I know that my own husband would NEVER want to cause me any sort of pain or discomfort when we are having sex & he would want to know if he was so that he could stop hurting me. If you are feeling guilty for asking him to stop, just remember, there are plenty of other things you can do that will be mutually satisfying until you get to the bottom of whatever the problem is. I am not in the medical professions, but obviously your body is telling you something is not o.k., so why not get it checked out? Not taking care of yourself could make it worse. Good luck with everything.