Pee or Get off the Pot...

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Yes she is showing the first signs of readiness. But it takes more than that. If you are using a little potty to train her, just always have it available and let her sit on hers when you sit on yours. If she wants nothing to do with it, back off a bit but always keep it there and available. My second son wanted absolutely nothing to do with it and when he turned 3 it was as if he suddenly saw it and wanted to try it. The biggest key to potty training in my experience is patience, lots of patience. It may be tomorrow, it may be months from now that she suddenly shows interest but she will, and her potty will be right there waiting for her. : )

Do not force it ... it will come. Encourage her but do not force her. Announce that you are going potty in the big girl potty and tell her she can join you if she likes (examples are good). Put a reward system in place and go back to ALL the potty training questions/answers and see what might work for you.

The way I handled people who offered suggestions that I didn't agree with or critiques of my parenting was to start my response with, "That's interesting, but my pediatrician says ..." Sometimes I would have repeat myself, but it worked like a charm. You can also say, "That's a good idea. I will check with my pediatrician." Sometimes I made it up, but I had gotten what I thought was good information. I just let my pediatrician take the credit or blame.

Then you can do what you want and not stress out your daughter.

You shouldn't question your parenting decisions based on how your mother would do things. Each child is different, and your decisions should be what's best for your daughter. Sometimes Mom gives good advice, and sometimes not so much. Take the good advice, but do not override your own Mom instincts simply to please your mother.

You absolutely didn't wait too long. Sending your kindergartener to school in pull-ups is waiting too long (unless there's some kind of developmental delay, obviously). Many children do not potty train until they are 3-4 years old. It doesn't have to be a power struggle. Pretty soon she will be at an age that she will miss out on activities (like pre-school) if she's not potty trained. Use those things as an incentive.

Personally, I would have a huge problem with the diaper removal though. If my son did that (3 yrs old and not potty trained!) I would tell him he either needs to leave the diaper on or potty train. If this didn't work, I'd leave him naked from the waist down and spend a couple of days in the bathroom.

Good luck!

Don't force her but keep encouraging her to sit. Have her pick out a fun seat to put on the big potty so it is special for her. You can also get some dollar store toys and let her pick one each times she makes pee pee on the potty. (Cheap toys are better than candy).
When you see her going to squat bring her into the bathroom and ask her to go in there, you might even bring her in when you go so she can see that it’s ok.

Don't force it. Your daughter is NOT you.

My daughter was almost 4 when she was totally potty trained. We started around 2 - it was really stressful for her (we had just moved from Los Angeles to San Francisco) so we just let it slide....the harder you push it to happen - the more stressful it is.

We drove across country when she was 3 and left for Belgium. She could hold her urine forever (still can!!) and was doing good on the road trip. She wanted to be a "big girl" and we let her got in undies...she held it for too long (stubborn!!!) and ended up wetting herself in the car. She was devastated and my ex was livid. I was upset because I didn't FORCE her to go when we had stopped before....oh well.

She WILL get it. Tell your mom to BACK OFF. EVERY child is different. My oldest son was potty trained in one week - he was 2.5 years old. His brother? Oh my word!! Like his half-sister - months!! DO NOT force it.

Don't worry about your mom, but it does sound like she is showing signs of being ready. My daughter just potty trained her 2.4 yr old and rewarded her for going in the potty with an M&M or skittle. Worked like a charm. She now has a chart and has to go in the potty 3 X to get the skittle. Weaning her off of that.
But it works well. Positive reinforcement.

acting like she is scared of the potty is mostly a power struggle. my daughter does this (same age) she will say she is scared of her dolls and hours later love them again. she will say she is scared of her bed. which i respond to in a no way silly kind of tone. " your bed is not scary hehehe"! which she will lay back and giggle too. she wants to sleep in her brothers bed. i tried potty training my daughter once she was two but she ended up peeing all over the floors! (tile) she would two but i think her bladder just wasnt ready yet.

You absolutely have NOT waited too long! The average age for potty training these days is around 36 months. We went cold-turkey on the diapers and straight to panties. We tried doing pull-ups, but I think that just made things more confusing. M&M's for rewards. Lots and lots of positive reinforcement... no negatives when we had accidents. Worked beautifully! Good luck to you!

reward her just for sitting on it for now. (one M and M or one skittle/life saver, tic tac is reward enough switch it up for variety) Be consistent she should sit on it for two minutes every few hours. Later you can up the reward if she does anything on the potty. If needed start with sitting on potty with clothes and when she is used to that change it to sitting with panties down.