Hi, J. -- I wanted to just add something, especially since you mentioned how you truly have no option to shop for a new doctor easily. First, if there is only one other ped. in your small town and on your plan, yes, I'd try there, but be aware that that practice may not be accepting any new patients--some practices are "full" and don't take anyone who isn't already an established patient. I've experienced that if you want to see a pediatrician because your kid's sick, and you're not on their patient list, they often won't see you-- it's off to the overcroweded "urgent care" for you. If you want to make the switch, you couldn't do it when your daughter's sick and needs to be seen right away; you'd need to go in to that office, check whether they're taking new patients, etc.
Second, if you are forced by your location and insurance to stay with your current pediatricians, be sure you have documented every time they've made a mistake! It may be late now, if they've been doing it for a while, but sit down and make detailed notes of everything you can remember--the dates, symptoms, what they said, meds they put her on, results, etc. And on all subsequent visits, carry a notepad and pen, and make detailed notes of everything you're told by everyone, nurses, doctors, etc. Don't be intimidated if they seem uncomfortable with your note-taking! These notes mean you have the best possible information in the event you have to come back to them and say, "We've got a problem here." Finally -- what are your plans once your husband retires? Are you staying in the same area? Access to better health care, for all of you, could be a consideration for what you do after his retirement. Good luck and continue to be an advocate for your kid--you're doing that already!