My son's birthday is the 28th of December...I'm having a hard time with his 3rd birthday, just because he's at a point where he is making a lot of friends...But for his 2nd birthday I didn't go all out at all! In fact, it was just his grandparents & 2 cousins. I like it a lot.
It was still fun to celebrate, but we didn't do to much. He had a "construction" party so we did everything w/ tractors & dirt! I'd keep it simple just for your sanity j/k!! BTW what I wanted to do with my son this yr but the tickets were sold out...Maybe you kind find something similar in your area, in my city they have an old train that they set up like the Polar Express. They serve hot cocoa, get a 1hr train ride & a little gift. Maybe you kind find something like that, just to create a memory for her :)
Good luck my Birthday is the 27th of December and my Mom always had a hard time planning my birthdays. It became way easier once I was older. Ice skating, bowling, miniature golf, roller skating etc...And in all reality I don't remember any of them before the age of 5 :) Just what I see in the photos :)
Good Luck I'd be eager to know what you decide...as I'm still looking for ideas too :)