My mom even tried to stear us in the "right" name choice. I got so sick of it I burst. I told her she had her chance to name and raise her 2 children and if she thinks she did it wrong, its way too late now. Now its my turn to have a go at it, and we think were doing an okay job. We have people compliment us on how well behaved our children are.
This isn't to say if I ask for your opinion that I don't want it, but please wait till I've asked.
It isn't 100% better, but close to 90. I even let my Mom have her own pitfalls- such as: When we went down to visit her, she swore her room had nothing in it that could be destroyed. She soon learned they have their ways of getting stuff off the ceiling and then heavily started listening to what I had to say.
If it comes to the health of your child (wet pants in cold weather), its up to you to stick to your guns. If she believes your are so inflexable with your childs schedule, write it down and take advantage of the fact that you now have babysitter and take a night or 2 for you and your DH. See how much the schedule means to her then.
If you do confront her, a point to make was that she had her rules for a reason, just like you do now. Yes you are going to get some things wrong, but they are your mistakes to make and you will learn from them.
I hope you are getting some good advice on this site!!
J.