G.B.
I'm glad you're home with the kids. You need to get family counselling with someone who can teach your husband some better ways. He is clearly angry with you. Couples counselling could be another way to go. Do what you can to continue to build your relationship with Emily. Even though she is being used by him to get at you, what you do for her and how you are there for her will pay off! His taking her to bed with him bothers me and is an area of serious risk, though I usually think it's great when families share a bed when all this isn't going on. I really feel you need to take a stand and make an appointment for you guys to see someone who can advocate for your daughter and speak plainly to your husband about his attitude and behavior. Please do not simply learn to live with this. I think your daughter will be damaged by all this and you need to do what's best for her ASAP. If your insurance convers mental health visits, use that. If not, go to your community mental health agency or family services agency where they have a sliding scale.