I am a grand mother... Looking for some help for my young daughter in law. Does anyone know of any Child care or parenting classes in the Carrollton area? She dosen't have the mother instint that I think she should have. My son said that they could use a little help in that area. I have given my advice and sometimes I might be too hard on them, but I want what is best for my grandchild.
Check at the local hospitals, sometimes they have classes or even a moms group would help her.
Don't we all need a little help in that area? Who EVER has ALL the answers? I strongly agree with the last comment. I know you really want the best for your grandchild, but who are you to judge whether she is a good mother or not? There are likely plenty of things that go on when you are not around that make her a great mother. Plus, no one can be a good mother 100% of the time. I am not. I make mistakes. I am sure you can admit you did. But I am sure you were a good mother MOST of the time. It's the total score that counts. I am really concerned about you discussing her mothering skills with her husband. Yes, he is your son, but he is her husband, and I have a strong concern that might be meddling. I might be hard on you, but if you want what is best for your grandchild, beware that you do not make her FEEL like she is a bad mom. That is the MOST damaging thing that anyone can do to a mother. Instead of focusing on the things that she doesn't do, focus on the things she DOES do and reinforce that behavior. Compliment her. Compliment it to her husband. That way the good will be more apparent in his eyes and he will be able to reinforce it to her as well. I am sure your son really loves and respects and VALUES your opinion, so when you go as far as to talk negatively about his wife, that puts him in a very bad position. Because he values you and you have been a strong voice to him all of his life, the negative things that you say about her will start to become more apparent to him. It puts him in a very precarious position. I am telling you all this because, you should want what is best for their family. And there family starts with the husband and wife. If they are strong and support each other then the whole family will be strong. The best thing that you can do is reinforce the positive and if anything, be an example to her. Not a judge. Hope this helps.
I woudl suggest that neither you OR your son should tell the mother she is not a good enough mother. Talk about backfiring on you! If you all really want reassurance that she is invested as a parent, then BOTH your son and the mother should attend a class together. There are a lot of classes available through the Fort Worth Parenting Center, or parenting advice in general available in a "coaching" setting through www.childreninthemiddle.com. Although there is a lot of focus on parents who are divorcing in these programs, there are a lot of other classes available. If you and your son gang up on her, I predict there will be a divorce - and that is REALLY hard on the kids. I hope this helps. I have been working with families in divorce for over 20 years so I would like to see your son avoid the things that might lead to that. J. D.
Moms club international. Theres one in every area.
Hi D.,
I hear so many moms on here suggest Love & Logic books. A while back I checked them out online and they have seminars for parents. The next one is this Thursday which may be too soon for your son and DIL but you might keep this link and check back for future dates in the Dallas area.
http://www.loveandlogic.com/ecom/pc-237-74-plano-april-3-...
-Char
D.,
I live in Carrollton, and I would love to be a "mentor Mom" to your daughter-in-law! I am in my early 40's, and have a 17-year-old and a 3-year-old (their B-days are in a couple of weeks, actually). I also belong to a MOPS group at my church in Carrollton, and our group is open to any Mom of an Infant/ Preschooler.
Since I am not a member of your family, maybe I can help them a little, or guide them to the best source of info for a particular subject/area of parenting.
Best Wishes!!
~J.~
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Hi D.,
I'm a member of the Greater Lewisville Mothers & More group, which is a great support group for ALL moms! We're going to be hosting an OPEN HOUSE EVENT,that maybe the two of you might be interested in attending...
"Dealing with Mommy Guilt", TUESDAY, MAY 20th 2008 at 7pm! Guest Speaker - Eliska Counce is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Director of Transforming Tomorrows Counseling Center in McKinney (www.mckinneycounseling.com), where she specializes in moms, wives, and the people who love them. Eliska enjoys teaching other women about how to conquer mommy guilt, methods to babyproof your marriage, how to transcend stress, and ways to achieve balance while juggling the many responsibilities we women have.
Join us on May 20th to learn more about banishing mommy guilt! For event details please visit www.mothersnmore.com or call 1-888-535-7118.
Here's a little info about our group:
Greater Lewisville Mothers & More, is a non-profit organization dedicated to improving the lives of mothers through support, education, and advocacy.
Welcome:
Our chapter welcomes ALL Stay-At-Home & Working MOMS living in Lewisville, Flower Mound, Highland Village, Corinth, & many of the DFW surrounding areas.
What we have to offer:
Monthly meetings with guest speakers, family activities, playgroups(including Saturdays!), MOMS Night Out, Recipe-Foodies Club, Coffee Catch-Up Club, Book Club, and a monthly activities calendar.
Take care,
E.
www.mothersnmore.com
