Parent / Teacher Meeting

If you want to have a frank and open conversation about what is going on, without making him feel bad, then no.

no-you do not bring children to a P/T meeting. His teacher will not be able to speak candidly about him if he is right there. And it sounds like she needs to. If you cannot find someone to watch him just one of you go.

Don't bring him. It is a parent/teacher meeting no child need be present. Even if you kid is doing just fine, the teacher may need to discuss delicate things that may hurt your littleone's feelings unintentionally. The teacher wants to talk to you to develop some strategies on how to help your son be the best he can be in the classroom.

My experience relating to my boys is that most women teachers expect them to behave in a way that is just not in their DNA and when they act like all true boys they get punished for it.

Listen closely to what the teacher has to say about your son's behavior and then decide and determine if there is some kind of byass or if you son is truly being and pain and why. For some students it is because they can't see, for others it is because they are bored and for others it is because they just don't understand the material.

No, this is important enough to get a baby sitter for. You might want to at some point discuss the fact that you and teacher talked an are on the same page with wanting your son to suceed, but he shouldn't be there for it.

No, do not bring him. The teacher and you and your husband cannot be open and honest and say whatever you need to say with him listening. You never know how a small child may take something and you don't want to upset him which could make things worse.

Well, ours is coming up, my daughter isnt having problems at all that Im aware, but Im still not taking her. I want the teacher to feel comfortable discussing any weaknesses without having to worry about my daughters feelings.

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My gut says no. If you can get a babysitter, it would certainly keep the meeting more distraction-free. We don't even bring our children to conferences because we want to be able to speak as candidly as possible. But, if a babysitter cannot be found...

Bring Snacks
Bring a Leapster/DS
Or find a project for him to work on in another corner of the room.

I would say no but you might want to ask the teacher

I would say not if at all possible. If he must come with you let the teacher know so she can have something set up to keep him busy while you are there.

no, actually, you're school should've listed that in the pt note only parents. this is a private time for parents and teacher's to talk about accomplishments, and struggles that may be embarassing to the child. if you cannot find someone to watch your child, then only one needs to go.

if your child is struggling his teacher will need the one on one time...as my mom said last night after my visit (we have a social issue)..."it's none of the childs buisness what parents and teacher's talk about"...she may want to figure out a team system that your son cannot know about for the best success

may be even best for your child to NOT know you're going.. i have started refraining from telling my daughter when i go, so she can't "prepare" anything for it...behaviour, grades, etc

I would try to be just you and the teacher - without your son, UNLESS, you have no choice and must bring him. I had to bring my son with me one time - no other choice. He was fine, the teacher didn't mind - she understood, he played with some things in the class while I had my meeting. We didn't involve him with the meeting or ask him anything while we were talking.

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Mom, teach young children and would not bring my child if the meeting is about his/her behavior, it would be akward and the teacher can not speak freely about what the issues are and suggestion for things you need to work on with hi. Get a sitter or call a family member of friend who can watch you son for an hr. or so. Be open to what she has to say and as for ideas on things you can do to help him learn some self control. Hope this helps and good luck

Ask your child's teacher! S/He would certainly let you know if it seemed appropriate to discuss things in front of your son, or maybe there are things that are better discussed between adults without entertaining your son (& therefore distracting from the meeting). It's been my experience that most K teachers want the best for their students, & are very open to talking with you and answering your questions, whatever the situation. Send the teacher an email, or leave a message for her/him to call you.

I'd say no. Parent/teacher conferences are just that, for parents and teachers. It's not appropriate for children to be in on those discussions, regardless of behavior in the classroom. These conferences are a time for you to talk about your child's overall progress in class, to set goals, and to get to know your child's teacher.

However, if you want to set up a meeting between you, your child and your child's teacher to discuss his behavior in class, bring this up at the meeting and ask the teacher for his/her opinion. But, in general, bringing children to parent/teacher conferences is considered taboo.

M.

I wouldn't. It's not a good idea to talk negatively about your child in front of your child. Plus, you will be able to focus a little more on what is being said. Ask the teacher for ideas to help at home.

No. Talk to them separately.
best, k

No! You need to have an adult-adult conversation ABOUT him, and not in front of him.