I would stay in the routine of letting her fall asleep with the pacifier that she likes. Maybe try the first few min`s (10-15) in the rocking chair with her along with some calming quiet songs or noises. Once she falls asleep, just make sure that she has fallen into a deep sleep. Before you put her into her crib or once she`s in the crib.. gently try to take her soother out.. if you feel like she doesn`t want to give it up and she`s still sucking quite hard on it leave it alone. but if she will let you take it out, then give it a try. You may find that she`s so relaxed because of the music etc that the last thing on her mind is her soother. This is what my husband and i have been doing with our little one who is 4 months and for us it works..keep in mind that every baby is different so what works for one, might not work for another baby .. you just gotta keep trying different things until you find something that works for all of you! =)
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I would stay in the routine of letting her fall asleep with the pacifier that she likes. Maybe try the first few min`s (10-15) in the rocking chair with her along with some calming quiet songs or noises. Once she falls asleep, just make sure that she has fallen into a deep sleep. Before you put her into her crib or once she`s in the crib.. gently try to take her soother out.. if you feel like she doesn`t want to give it up and she`s still sucking quite hard on it leave it alone. but if she will let you take it out, then give it a try. You may find that she`s so relaxed because of the music etc that the last thing on her mind is her soother. This is what my husband and i have been doing with our little one who is 4 months and for us it works..keep in mind that every baby is different so what works for one, might not work for another baby .. you just gotta keep trying different things until you find something that works for all of you! =)
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I would stay in the routine of letting her fall asleep with the pacifier that she likes. Maybe try the first few min`s (10-15) in the rocking chair with her along with some calming quiet songs or noises. Once she falls asleep, just make sure that she has fallen into a deep sleep. Before you put her into her crib or once she`s in the crib.. gently try to take her soother out.. if you feel like she doesn`t want to give it up and she`s still sucking quite hard on it leave it alone. but if she will let you take it out, then give it a try. You may find that she`s so relaxed because of the music etc that the last thing on her mind is her soother. This is what my husband and i have been doing with our little one who is 4 months and for us it works..keep in mind that every baby is different so what works for one, might not work for another baby .. you just gotta keep trying different things until you find something that works for all of you! =)
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I dont think there`s anything wrong with letting her use her pacifier (she is just a baby and that`s her way of soothing herself).. the best thing to do is stay consistent!! If you try to take the soother away it will give he mixed messages.
Here is a few other things along with using the soother i would try:
I know you said that with your first child you rocked him or her too often but try rocking you little one for a much shorter period of time. Give or take about 10-15 min`s along with some sound therapy or lulleby.
Or try giving her a bath before she goes down for the night. If that`s what she`s used to (maybe she gets a bath during the day) every baby reacts differently.
When she`s in her crib and still wants to suck on her soother, the best thing to do is just leave her be. Although if she is willing to spit the soother she will on her own terms. You may find that when you put her into her crib and she`s in a deep sleep, that the soother might be the last thing she worries about. You just gotta do what`s best for all of you! I wouldn`t stress though.. some day when she`s older (2-3yrs) she will just give it up.
Hope all of this helps, it works for out 4 month old.