Out of Control 6 Year Old with ADHD and Possible ODD and Contridicting Grandpa

Hi B.D,

It sounds like you have a lot of stress going on in your life. I would highly consider getting a job to support you and your child. Unforunately, even though you are an adult-you are living with your dad and so he makes the rules. He thinks he can parent you and your child. Its very sad, but you need to do what is best for your son. Get on your feet and move out. Take your son to a specialist and get a full diagnosis before judging what to do or how to treat. Your son at 6 years old should be able to respect you, talk nicely and calmly and not throw a fit all the time. So, just remember----he may listen to everyone else- but that doesn't matter as much because he still doesn't listen to you. Get back to the basics and start over. GL

M

I have an eight-year-old with ADHD, so I understand what you're saying.

For starters, see about changing medication if you're not seeing a "Wow!" improvement during the day. I can't tell if the discipline issues are coming up when the meds are active or during the more difficult inactive part of the day. Best of luck with the official appt. next month. That should be very, very helpful.

Is there a possibility of going to work? It sounds like you need your freedom from your dad and that's the way to get it.

Good luck with all you have on your plate! I hope it all evens out for you soon.

One thing you need to understand about ADD their mind does not work like a normal mind. Although writing lines would be pure torture it will not change the behavior.

The easiest way to get someone with ADD to do what you want is to get them to believe you don't think they can do it. In other words they have to want to do it.

You son probably has ODD because he sees you and your dad argue about his disipline. He knows what he can get away with when it comes to your dad and expects you to be the same way. All kids go through phases when they act up more than others and that's when you need to stay on top of him with the disipline. You need to tell your dad that he is your son and that you are the ONLY one that calls the shots on how he is punished. And just my 2 cents, but you might want to find a different DR for him because I don't think it is right to put a child on ADHD meds without a full and proper work up!! There are many studies coming to surface that boys especially are over diagnosed with adhd just because they are acting like little boys and not like mini adults that have complete control over themselves.

Good luck
S.

I am a little confused here... You say that the land and the house are yours so technically your Dad is living with you? Then you say that you are not working so you are unable to support you and your son... So I guess your Dad is paying the household bills?

push ups, situps, etc. My kid went through a spell like this. I made him give me 20. Once in the middle of Target!!