Any advice at all would be appreciated. :) My son, who's 3 months old now has some sort of adversion to his father. He wants nothing to do w/ him. If I have to leave, most times he cries hysterically until I get home. He won't eat for him and doesn't want him to hold him. He will almost instantly stop crying when I get home & pick him up. I'd understand him doing this if my husband were neglectful or abusive or not home very often... but he's very involved w/ Finn and does things just as well if not better than me. I don't understand this? Could it just be early onset of separation anxitey? Will he grow out of it?
Thank you.
Thank you. All the responses made me feel better. Finn's still being hard on his dad, but we'll just hang in there and hopefully it will pass. Thanks for the hope :)
K.,
My name is K.. I three children of my own. My youngest who is now three, was the same way with my husband, but now you can't seperate them. I don't know what it was, but it doesn't last long. It might be the bond between a mother and child. My son is still a momma's boy, but he loves his daddy now.
K.
my son just turned 5 months and he was the same way. my husband done and still does everything he can for him. he does some things other dads wouldn't do, he is just a wonderful father. our son stll gave him a hard time. nobody could soothe our sone like his mommy. but i am here to tell you that it does get better, gradually. but there isn't anything you can really do except have your husband keep trying. our son still wants me to get him to sleep and we he doesn't feel good he wants nobody but me. slowly but surely it is getting better, so all i can tell you is to give it time. but i know exactly what you are going through.
my oldest son did the same thing, but eventually, he got used to being around my husband. my younger baby took to him right from the start, but you just have to give it time.
Hello K.,
I think it is a phase. I do not know why it happens with his daddy, but my baby did exactly the same at that age with my husband. That lasted about 3 weeks. I do not know if it lasts more than that with different babies. After that and since then, my baby is so happy to see his daddy, and he opens his little arms to ask my husband to be held and hugged. They played a lot together.
The more your little baby sees and interacts with his dad, it will get better.(playing around, hugging..etc.)
It will pass, do not worry!
Alejandra
wow.. my little girl did that to my husband (her father) abd it just broke his heart.. because she would be fine with him when i was there and stuff but the minute i left she would freak out... the doctor says all children will go through that stage at some point in time.. he said she might even do it to me so i shouldnt get my feelings hurt.. what i did was one day i left for like 8 hours and when i came back she was happy to see me and stuff but she never did the crying thing again... that is what the doctor told me could be helpful... she still doesnt like anyone to hold her if i am standing there but thats a different story! Good Lucky@
He's a baby, he's spent most of his time with you his mother. That's just how it is. It won't be like that forever though.
First let me say "hello" from Goshen!
It really is just a stage that most children go through. A child knows his or her mothers scent from birth. There is a bond between mother and child that is like no other. It's just important to not get discouraged, and involve your husband in daily activities (with you assisting or very nearby) as much as possible. And keep in mind, it's generally a very short time before an infant grows out of that stage. Don't worry!
This is VERY common and actually a developmental milestone. He's learned he's a separate person from you and wants to be around you. Tell your hubby to enjoy it now... in year your son will probably be latched onto him and want nothing to do with you. It's nothing to take personally. Kids usually have a strong preference for one parent, and it usually changes every few months. Just keep daddy involved in everything like he is now and soon it'll be you getting the cold shoulder -- and a much needed break. :-)
I would not worry to much about it I think he has just bonded with you more .Maybe your son can tell that your Husband is more nervous with him like some fathers are .I think the older he gets he will bond with your husband just as much as you give it some time !
Alyssa does the same thing, she's 8 months old. She's pretty much done it for as long as I remember, but it's gotten worse lately. I don't have any advice but I just wanted to say I know how you feel and I hope we can both figure out what to do. I do know that she stops crying a minute or two after I leave, and she's fine until I get back and she sees me, then I have to hold her or else you would think we were killing her. I think i've actually made it worse by not giving her to my husband and letting him help because she cries when I do, so she's not used to him doing anything, so don't make that mistake. Anyway, GL!
This is totally normal! Lots of babies are like this; they are just more used to mommy. For some it is easier to be away from mom than others. You and your husband should not take it personally. He will grow out of it! I promise.
Our oldest (now 7 yrs) was the same way. My hubby was very willing to help out, give me some time out etc, but I always felt terrible that our son gave him such a hard time. The good new...he grew out of it!! It seemed at the time like it went on forever, then one day, he decided Dad was pretty cool and was all about him!! I guess it went on for close to 2 monthes. Hang in there!!
My son has been doing this for months. He definitely loves his daddy, but he wants MOMMY! I have been telling daddy it is becaue when he holds him, Maddox can't watch him... one of his fave things to do. My husband totally sees through that theory, but I think it still makes him feel a little better. I have talked to many and all say that it is a phase and eventually it will be our turn. hang in there
both of my kids did the same thing at that age. He will grow out of it. Right now, he sees mommy as the main caretaker and is naturally attached to you. Have hubby beside you while you're feeding him, changing him, or even just holding him, or stay by hubby's side while he does those things. Just give the baby time, he's still getting used to this world outside of the comfort of your womb. He'll probably out grow it in a few months once he starts becoming mobile and exploring things on his own.
