Our Dreams

Whatever you do think positive. Feelings are usually a reaction to thoughts. Also dreams about death are suppose to signify change, and from what you have said it seems you are afraid of this change.

Hello S.,
Well, I have no logical explanation for you, BUT...
I think that having dreams like that is just your mind's way of reminding you that you are a good mom. I have been there and still am occasionally when it comes to my daughter. She is now a year old. I haven't slept through the night since I was six months pregnant. I always worry that no matter what I do, nothing will everbe good enough for my daughter. Feeling that way sometimes is a good thing because you feel that your child is worth so much more than this world has to offer. With your second child, you may not worry as much because you've seen that everything turned out ok with your first at that age. If you are worried about your dreams, try journaling them, and read through them once in a while. If you are still bothered, you may want to talk to your doctor about it. Not because you are crazy, but sometimes it just helps to tell an objective party.
I hope that this helps you some.

I actually heard that this occurs when there is a transition. Maybe your boys aren't babies anymore. I used to get them with my son last year after he was just potty trained. Think about what is going on in your life and it probably relates to something. Good Luck!

S.-
OH, SO NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I wonder on a minute by minute basis what the TRAGEDY is that will befall my family- specifically my daughter. I was NEVER a stressed out ball of messy C. before I had her. I have a bunch of friends who are moms/ grandmoms (in their 60s) and they said they've felt the same as we do. But, they keep reassuring me that we'll get back to feeling ok as our kids get older. As much as I was ready to be a mom, we were married for 11 years before our daughter was born, I was totally unprepared for the toll it would take on my sanity. I was normal before she was born- now I'm a ball of stress all the time- for no reason!!!!! Being a mom is hard and it makes you crazy- simply because we're charged with taking care of these precious and beautiful little lives. What an awesome and tremendous responsibility......HUGE!!! But, could you imagine it any other way???? They love us more than anyone else in the whole world......we're it for them and it's a privilege- BUT STAGGERING. What we are is enough for them-simply because we love them more than anyone ever could. What you do is the best for your babies and it IS enough. As moms we're awesome and we take beautiful care of our beautiful babies. BTW, I'm a total WRECK about the fire alarms in our house. I'm awake almost every night-almost every night staring at the fire alarms to make sure they aren't malfunctioning- it's a weird quirk and irritates my husband- but that's who I am- mom to a great kid and wife to a mostly awesome ;-) husband! Too bad for him! We do the best we can everyday because we love these people so much!!!!!!
Good luck!!!!!!!!!!

Hi S.,
when we become moms for the first time..we experience the most wonderful thing of the world..and we go thru that emotional rollercoaster.we are always protective of our kids,its natural instinct but sometimes we become overprotective and keep on worrying if something bad going to happen to my baby..u know its always "BAD" which comes to mind first ,its human nature and these kind of thoughs keeps on coming to us and then i think we start dreaming about them..I have a two and half year old daughter and i just worry about her,is something bad going to happen,is someone going to hurt her..etc etc.Sometimes i dream about it too..though i have started controlling my self now,and try to think positive whenever i have those feelings.
but its not like u that if i have a dream then something happens afterwards..but still its always bad which comes to mind first.
Don't u think its possible that its just a coincidence that u had a dream and something happened after that.Do u try to think "the other way"(positive) when u have those feelings about your elder son..
Its good if u talk to someone,your doctor or anyone u have faith in..this will help you.
Don't worry nothing will happen to him...God bless your family.
Good luck
F.

Well I can tell you that your not alone on the bad dreams about stuff happening to your son! I havent has one lately but for the first two years of my sons life I would wake up at least once a week cry because something bad happend to him in my dreams it got to the point that I wouldnt sleep for a while. I asked my dr. what was going on and she said when your body is run down and your over stressed your more likely to have dreams about your WORST fears... Something happening to my son is my WORST fear!! He is all I have, Im all he has!! So every night before bed, think pleasent thoughts about the happy things that have happend with your kids... the fun times... thats what I do... Good luck, and I hope you have better dreams!

HI S.,

I do know that dreams rarely if ever are about the actual dream. Meaning, the dreams you are having, may mean, since he is ur oldest, you may be worried about losing him, as in growing up too fast, losing him if he's paying more attention to your husband than to you, etc. The way the brain gets thru underlying stress comes out in our dreams in weird ways. When I was pregnant with my first son (16 now), I dreamt I would lose him right out of my arms on a boat, like he literally shot out of my arms into the water. I was so afraid I could not save him. I assume it was the impending responsibility I was about to have. I was only 19. My second son(11) had a dream the doctors told him I would die after having this baby(I'm almost 6mos preg). At first his dream scared me, then I realized , hey, he's just worried about me having another baby, prob cuz I felt horrible alot of the time 4 years ago preg with my daughter.

Most people dream all the time but never remember them. Sometimes, depending on when we wake, the dream is still fresh in our conscience minds as well. I have to admit I"ve had some really odd dreams this pregnancy , mostly about my friend, lol.

Take a deep breath, maybe get a dream book or look it up online. May help to see what is really bothering you deep down inside.

Take care , hope this helps. God bless,

L.

Susie, I'm afraid I don't have an answer for you, but I can tell you you are not alone in this. I have a baby and when I have these dreams, the only thing I can tell to myself is, "everything is gonna be all right, yuu are just afraid because you love your baby so much and you want to protect her". I hope someone else can advise you better than me. I hope too your soul can feel better eventually with these advises.

S., Hi there. I think I see why you dream about your oldest son all the time. You seem to be particularly worried about him. Is he reckless? Does he endanger his life unnecessarily? You said you worried about him from the day he was born. This worry seems irrational to me unless he is reckless. This is why you dream about him and not your other children. Everyone has had bad dreams about their children. Just last week,I woke up crying because I dreamed my son died. You are certainly not alone. But I think you may be making yourself have bad dreams because you are a worrywart. If your son gives you no reason to worry about him, try to lighten up and don't think so much about what could happen. Enjoy your children, and your life with them, and let the worries fall by the wayside. Life is too short not to enjoy it to it's fullest.

Well, I can't say that I have ever had these feelings before- but I do worry alot about my daughter, she's 8. I've had some pretty frightening dreams about things happening to her. And I often worry about her during the day when she's in school. Hoping she's okay and safe.

If your really concerned about this, perhaps you should consider talking to someone about it. Sometimes when you love your children as much as we do- it's hard to imagine anything bad happening, so that gets us thinking about all these horrible things that could happen. Its kind of a catch 22.

Don't forget- over the past 5-6 years some really horrible things have been happening in our society. Perhaps, this is playing into the feelings you've been having. Sometimes I think the media instills panic into everyone.

Hi, I really feel for what you are going through. It sounds so hard to have such fear about your little one whom you love so much!! I don't think that you are alone at all. For sure not! From what I understand about dreams, they are very symbolic, and not necessarily about what they seem to be about... if that makes any sense (?). Like the water in your dreams, may be about something in your unconsious. Carl Jung did a lot of work on dream analysis, and for me, what I have read really rings true. But everyone is different. It may or may not ring true for you. There have been many times that I have dreamt something that scared the daylights out of me, and the when it was analyzed, I realized that it had special meaning, and was actually a message to me about myself... and not about what I feared it was about. It's hard to explain. I have read that the ocean is symbolic for the uncoscious, and that swimming pools are symbolic for what is called the "collective unconscious". Your son in your dream could be symbolic of a piece of yourself, or for other things... and not necessarily about him. It makes sense also what people wrote to you saying that it may mean that there will be change... that one piece dies and other is born. Do you ever have "birth" dreams? They are probably so pleasant that you don't wake up from them. Anyway, I know this probably didn't help at all... but I just wanted to say that your dreams sound perfectly normal to me. And hopefully they aren't about your son, but about something else. I'm sorry if this didn't make any sense.