A.K.
I am going through the same situation with my 4 year old and 19 month old. They constantly pick on each other and all I deal with ALL day long is crying, whining, hitting, etc. Its hard enough to stay home and do housework but also deal with their fighting with each other and fighting them just go to the store (they struggle with me on putting their clothes on and my 4 year old says "He cant do it" and that makes me angry when I know he can and I've seen him do). I also tried calmly, punishment, yelling, spanking but nothing works, because after his punishment is done he does the picking him the youngest again. Plus, it doesnt teach my youngest how to act. About the car seat thing, they say its safest in the middle so I put the booster on one side and the other in middle. And I have to carry some toys, snacks, drinks with me because its enough distraction with the cars around me, I dont need a distraction in the backseat with the boys fighting and whining. I know I have no advice but I'm glad that im not alone here. If you get some advice email me because Im lost and frustrated too.