OMG! Seperation Anxiety ALL DAY and ALL NIGHT!!

Oh honey, I feel your pain.
First of all, let me tell you, no stage your child goes through will last forever!
Having said that here's what I would do:
-I, personally, am not a fan of crying it out. I went in & helped my child when he cried. Was I tired? Oh yes! Did it pass? Yes!
-There's a reason she cried for 7 hours: she needed something. I say go in, pick her up & try to feed her, change her & soothe her trying to figure out what she needs. Even when people use the cry it out method it should not last 7 hours. Don't beat yourself up about it, just moving forward ....go tend to her & don't let her cry that long. Crying it out should not last that long. She's trying to tell you something.
-She's only 7 mos old so he most likely is hungry. Pick her up & feed her, change her.
-I think in addition to her waking because she's hungry, she might have the problems w/her ears that you mentioned. Her only way of communicating to you at this age is to cry.
-How about putting down an air mattress for you to lay down on in her room after you feed her?
-That's what I did after my son got older. When he was younger, I would pick him up, chg him, feed him taking him out to the dimly lit living room, holding him on my chest until he burped & fell alseep. I used the recliner so it helped both of us. (When he was a bit younger, I had a bassinet on wheels that I could lay him down in & wheel him back to his room in.)
-A problem could be her ears so I would definitely ask her ped about a specialist.
-Some babies don't like slings or carriers so you have to find what your baby likes. Mine liked his bassinet, car seat, stroller, swing etc. I used what he liked AND I changed w/his ever changing needs.
-Hang in there, try EVERYTHING, attend to your baby's crying out as she is telling you something, sleep/rest when you can, ask the ped abt a specialist, find what relaxes your baby to sleep (swing, your arms while you're sitting etc).
-Hang in there....this stage will soon pass!

You need to see an ENT for tubes, not a pedi. Start there.

1. Purchase an otoscope. (My guess is that when you do this you will be able to look at her ears and check for any green or yellow drainage, if the tubes are still in or if they look infected. Im sure you know what to look for considering your daughters history with ear infections)
2. She does need tubes. Usually if the child has more than 4 infections in a year then they do tubes. There is a chance that recurring ear infections will affect the childs hearing so I would suggest another pediatrician, if the problem is not corrected. However, doctors do not like to do tubes until the child is at least a year.
3. Consistency. Once you have ruled out infections, some children can be extremely persistent. I had a friend who's child was 3 and the little girl would hold her breath until she turned blue if she didnt get her way. You need to show her who is in charge whether it be you or anyone else. Maybe next time she wakes up at 3:00 am you just go in there to comfort her but no drink and do this for about a week. Then the second week let your husband go in there to comfort her, then slowly but surely when she gets up in the middle of the night, let her cry it out for a few minutes and then go in there and tell her its not time to wake up, eventually it will get better. She got into a routine and she slowly needs to get out of it.
4. Although your daughters needs are priority, you as a mom need to take care of yourself. You cant be on your A game if you have lack of sleep and tennis elbows. Just be consistent and persistent with her. Let her know she can still come to you but she needs to go to the father and family as well.
I know its hard but I hope it all works out.

First, tubes may be necessary, but I used a chiropractor with my oldest's ear infections & I learned how to spot the "blockage" in his neck before the symptoms hit him. She used massage therapy to release the fluid & he was instantly better, even if I didn't notice the "blockage" early.

Second I feel your pain with the separation thing..my youngest was the same with me...he is still that way & he's 11, so I don't have much to offer there. SORRY!!

I feel your pain to a degree. My third child has always been a terrible sleeper and I have had many 3 AM wake-up calls and he only wants me. I've been up with him for the last two nights because he has a bad cold. He is now 2.5, so I can have him come in bed with me and feel safe enough to do so, but I only started doing that recently. I wouldn't have done it with a 9 month old. Can you get an air mattress and sleep on the floor next to her crib when she wakes up in the middle of the night? Or does she want you to be holding her?

As for the tubes, tell your pediatrician that you want a referral to an ENT. If he/she refuses to give you one, switch pediatricians. I was unhappy with our pediatrician for a couple of years, and finally got fed up and switched doctors a year ago. I'm so glad I did, and don't know why I waited so long. You need a doctor that listens to you, doesn't make you feel stupid or crazy, and has the same philosophy as you regarding the health and care of your child.