Ok, What Is the Trick to Get Her to Poop in the Potty?

Updated on November 11, 2010
C.R. asks from Olathe, KS
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I can't beilieve I'm asking this question. This is my third girl and I can't get her to poop on the potty!!! Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated. My daughter turned three on Sept. 28th and has been pee pee trained since about two weeks prior to that.

FYI - We are using panties only! No diapers and no pull ups, but she keeps pooping in her panties.

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M.G.

answers from Kansas City on

Bribery!! A long time ago a friend of mine was have a terrible time with her little girl. She'd been pee trained for a while, but just refused to poop on the potty. She got to the point where she was just holding her poop and causing problems. I bought a little present for Julia and wrapped it in rather generic party paper. I dropped it off at her house and told her mama to use it as bribery. It work. She knew that if she pooped on the potty she'd get that present and it took about a day or so, but she did it!! It was a very small present. I also use little treats to potty train my daycare kiddos: M & Ms, Smarties, etc. They know that if they do what is expected of them they'll get a treat.

Good Luck.

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E.G.

answers from Daytona Beach on

no trick,
they have to be ready,
keep asking,
let them sit with you,
get them a book, we call our bathroon the reading room,
ask her is her baby needs to good poop and use a makeshift potty, we made one with Kandoo wipes box.
good luck. I've heard that pooping is the last thing they have to being a baby ei diapers... Mine never had those issues but will still use pacifiers! and they still sleep in our bed, so one had washes the other, they don't go to school with the pacifiers and they will not be in our bed when they are 18!

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D.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Well....a few thoughts for you that helped my son....
•Explain that poop is waste from food that the body doesn't need any more--all the vitamins are gone & it's poop=garbage.
•Make sure she knows it's not "part of her" going in the toilet.
•We sort of interceded, and when we knew a poop was happening, I rushed him to the toilet and sort of...uh....knocked the poop off of his bum and into the toilet (crowd goes crazy!).
•See if she likes sitting backwards on the potty--like riding a horse, rocket ship, dino, unicorn, etc whatever she likes.
•Once Upon A Potty (girl version for you) kind of explains where the poop comes out of--she might even want to check out her own anatomy....
Good luck!

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C.C.

answers from Sacramento on

It might sound kind of mean, but when I knew they had to go, I'd just take them in, sit them on the potty, and wouldn't let them get up until they had pooped. Granted, mine had just turned 2 so they were smaller and easier to manage than a 3 year old, but just holding them there worked for me. It took about a day for each of them, and then they realized that nothing bad would happen when they pooped in the potty. I think maybe it was a weird feeling to poop in the potty after being used to the feeling of a diaper? Once they got used to it and understood that going in a diaper wasn't going to happen anymore, they were fine. Good luck, I hope you find something that works for your little girl!

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S.B.

answers from Wichita on

with my daughter, we figured out what time she normally pooped on the potty, which was right about 6 pm almost every night, so we started putting her on the potty every night after dinner and she got m&ms when she pooped. After about 2 weeks she started going on her own and about 2 weeks after that she would go without needing a treat afterwards.

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E.C.

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I asked the same question this past summer about my son. He was tinkle trained at about 3, but the poop in the potty just wouldn't happen and he was going to be 4. I had had it with changing poop!! He still slept in a pull up because I didn't want him to wet the bed so every night he would end up pooping in the pull up...grrr! Many of the moms told be to just wait and the he would do it in his own time and that I would be a bad mama if I forced it. Well I reached the end of my rope and I enforced the pooping on the potty!! I took every last diaper out of this house and made him help pack them up! I told him that we would be giving them to his baby cousin because he was a big boy and big boys don't need them. He was pretty excited to pass them on... until it was time to poop! I decided washing bedding would be far better than changing a 4 year olds diaper! He did get a bit constipated, but gave in and pooped on the potty and has been since and on top of that he goes through the night dry!! He is very strong willed and likes to control whatever he can. So in the end I know that it was really just a control issue and once he was not able to do that anymore he gave in. The best advice I could give you is to go with your gut and what you feel is best for her. If I would have waited it out I think I would still be changing poo. Try out some of the creative ideas that you are getting, but if your gut is pointing you in a certain direction it is probably the right one. I hope that she will be pooping on the potty very soon = ) !!!

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S.B.

answers from Kansas City on

When I had this problem with my daughter (3 yrs. old) I resorted to bribery and it worked! I took her to the store and let her pick out some bite-sized candies. She picked tic-tacs. I put them in the bathroom on a shelf where she could see them (but not reach them) and told her that everytime she used the potty instead of messing in her pants, she'd get some of the candy. It worked. She still occasionally has accidents, but they are few and far between. My cousin is tryng to become a foster parent and has gone through several classes. They taught him something similar. He put an empty jar on the back of the toilet. Everytime his son (2 yrs. old) uses the potty he gets to put a marble in the jar. When the jar is full, he gets to go to Wal Mart and pick out a toy of his choice. When he messes his pants, he has to take a marble out of the jar. My cousin tells me that this technique has been very effective for him. Hang in there. It will get better. Good luck and God bless.

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M.G.

answers from Dallas on

There is no trick to get a child to poop on the potty. It is all mental. The child has to be mentally ready. My son is almost 4. He has been pee pee trained for a while, but still refuses to poop on the potty. He just isn't mentally ready yet. It will just take time. She has to poop on the potty on her own terms when her brain is ready. And don't compare her to your other girls when they were her age b/c every child's stages of development are different.

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K.A.

answers from Little Rock on

I gave my daughter a dollar tree doll outfit for everytime she went in the potty. She started trying to do it in the potty then. The doll outfits at our local dollartree are 50 cents each. Bowel movements are general once a day, so it is not too expensive. I give stickers for peeing in the potty. I used matchbox type cars as rewards for my boys.

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J.K.

answers from Sacramento on

I don't know if you have her in pull-ups, but if you do, I'd get rid of those....IF you think she's ready and knows when she has to poop. Does she stop playing and hide to poop or simply stand still and do it? My daughter would do this and as soon as we put her in underwear she started pooping in the potty. (She had one accident and did not like how poop in her underwear felt.)

As others have said, is she regular enough that you know about when she will go? If she is you can sit her on the potty with some books and see if she'll go.

Two weeks isn't a long time... I would consider the pull-ups and the timing and if neither of those are a factor, I'd just give her more time. All kids do this at different times.

Good luck!

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