My sons baby teeth were so infected with cavities that they wanted to hospitalize him. They wanted him in Childrens Memorible. The whole cost would have been $20,000 including the doctors. I could not see putting my son to sleep and having all that done.
I searched until I found a very brave dentist. She agreed to help my son. She never let him see the needle. He had to have more then normal amount of shots. My son had suffered so long in pain that he did better than most children. He was two when the cavities were filled. We lost his back molers they just decinagreted. It was hell. He has crowns and pulled teeth.
People tell me I am a terrible parent and he just has a crumy mouth and hygeine. I hate the prejudice over health and hygeine. My ex-husband had bad bateria in his mouth that have rotted my teeth. My son's birth disorder and daddies bateria did not help him at all. We brushed daily. We flossed, mouth wash, cavity gum and on. His adult teeth are fine.
If the tooth can be filled I would try it. If he can have a crown it is cheaper than pulling it. I hate drugs. Can they have him sit in your lap while they work on him? I am concerned that your son will hate the dentist his whole life.
Doctor Kathy is our hero. She really helped my son. He is doing great now.
I wish you luck with your hard decision.