Off the Wall Friend Request

i accepted my MIL's request (weird to begin with as we have no relationship), come to find out she was 'monitoring' me, and discussing my 'activities' with my husband. my activities include a friends list over 300 people, who care about me, and are in my life for a good reason. she hates the fact that i have friends. she's a loner. so i 'defriended' her, her daughter, in fact all except one from my husband's family. now they can 'monitor' the spider nets in their room while leading a very lonely life. :) so no, do not accept her. you owe her nada.

Dear C.,

If you don't feel comfortable with it, don't accept the friend request.
You don't even have to give a reason.
You can just decline.
That's the beauty of the whole thing.

She is probably just nosy and wants to know what your up to. Which I believe a lot of people on facebook do.

Just hit ignore if you aren't comfortable friending her and don't waste another second thinking about it. I don't know your situation, but do you have children that are her grandchildren? Maybe she just wanted to see pics/updates of the kids. I know I convinced all my parents to join fb so they can see albums of my DD easier than me sending a separate email to everyone under the son....just a thought.

That's what the "ignore" button is for!

My former MIL called me out of the blue one time. It was probably 2 years after my divorce from her son. She claimed she was going through her cell phone and cleaning out numbers that didn't work. YEAH RIGHT. Whether my number was still active or not she shouldn't have called me - no reason to other than to be nosey. I gave her no information about whether I remarried (I had) or had kids (I had).

I would NOT let her be your facebook friend - no reason to. If she's no longer part of your life, she doesn't need to be now. She's probably just being nosey, wanting to know if you've remarried, have kids, etc.

I too had friend requests from some people I went to junior high school with. They were mean to me back then, but all of a sudden they want to be my 'friend'. I was physically abused by a someone during that time and all of those that 'friended' me knew it - and guess what - he is on their friend list! One woman that I did become friends with from junior high doesn't understand why I can't let all of it go and 'friend' them. My stomach was in knots and I could feel my blood pressure go up when I thought about reconnecting with them. I spent many, many years dealing with low self esteem from that time in my life. I took it one step further, not only did I 'ignore' their request, I 'blocked' them from ever contacting me again on FB. I searched anyone that I didn't want to contact me and blocked them. It may sound petty or juvenile, but I have no desire to converse with those that are, as you say, toxic. Don't ever feel guilty for taking care of yourself :)

hit "ignore". I have ran into a lot of people wanting to friend and they have too much negative energy.
Don't do it to be nice.

Ignore it, you got rid of those negative people for a good reason.. I would ignore the request as you don't need her in your new and happy life. ;-)

Some people are just on a mad race to see how many facebook friends they can have. Some people want to impress others on who becomes their friend. And then some just will-nilly request people they know. You decide. I have ignored several people that I didn't want on my profile and wish I had ignored others. My SIL has been arguing with all my friends lately about political stuff and I wish she wasn't there. If I remove her now, it will upset the apple cart.

Ignore her now....It's just an "ignore." Unles your profile is completely open, she has nothing to take offense from.

M.

I don't know what you are going to decide to do, or if some of your kids are her grandkids or not, but there are new security settings if you do decide to friend her. You can let her see only specific albums, and take her off of all other access. Or just ignore/block her, and don't think about her again.

I like doing apps (Farmville mostly). Either she needs neighbors, she likes you and misses you, or she wants to be nosey. You knew her best and if you did not like her when you were with her son then you are right not to accept her.

You can accept her and change your settings so she can only see what you want her to. I agree if you have children that are her son's that she probably wants to see what they're up to. And the mother/daughter in law relationship is tricky, maybe you will get along better now that there's no expectations or run-ins?! If you don't mind her knowing you rejected her (if she looks at you again it won't say request pending but will have add as friend) then ignore it, or block her. Or accept and hide what you don't want her to see.

Just ignore. And forget about it...
You don't need any negative energy in your life.
I did this with a former "friend" from college. I was surprised she wanted to friend me as we hardly ever spoke for the last year of college. She may have changed or whatever but I don't need a nosy and negative person in my (even virtual) life.. What's the point?

She probably just wants to stay current on pictures and things with your children. Odds are pretty good that she doesn't see them much? Don't "accept" if you don't want her privvy to all you do!

It is just a request, if you don't want to accept then don't. I think people request to be friends with anybody and everybody. I have denied many requests and don't feel bad one bit!

It's your call, if you want to remain separated from that part of your life, by all means don't accept the request. Maybe she's curious to look around you page and see how you're doing. Is she the grandma of any of your children? If so, maybe she wants to check up on them. Either way, if you're happy and enjoying life, keep it moving :)

It sounds like you've already made the decision to have her out of your life, so hit ignore, and if that doesn't work, go ahead and block her.

If you feel better about having her out of your life, I'd definitely decline and not give it a second thought.

Being friends with people on Facebook gives them access to see where you are, what you're like now, all your photos... basically your life. I'd keep her out if you felt like you needed to distance them in the first place.

Good luck! And don't worry about it, you're not obligated to be friends with people just because they sent a request.

When someone friends you on facebook and is awaiting a responses, they can view your photos and your comments show up on their homepage until you click on ignore.

I am FB friends with lots of people from my past, even my sisters first husband, his kids and grandkids. And my ex-husbands wifes sister and cousins...I know, it's all about the neighbors in the games, woohoo FarmTown, FarmVille, and Cafe World...

If I really don't like someone I won't friend them but I do have an adult cousin that I find his posts sexually inappropriate and block them from my home page, he is still a "friend" though. If he wants to contact me regarding anything he sends me an email.

Maybe they are reaching out to mend past hurts.

Go to privacy on the top right in the part where you log out and set your things accordingly. Everyone should do this. I recently set where only friends can see my friends lists and pictures. You can always feel safer knowing what limits you have set. I have the kids limits set where they don't show up on FB at all, they can friend anyone I approve but no one sees there name even when they type in everything about them including name, age, town, etc...they don't exist as far as their name is concerned.