My younger son occasionally has nightmares and sleeps in his brothers bed. Sometimes my older son sleeps in younger brother bed. They both have single beds. Younger son has trubdle bed but its not normally out. Boys are 11yrsand 7yrs.
When I was growing up I loathed snuggling my little sister. She kicked and talked in her sleep.
Also they enjoy being silly and wrestling and talking together.
I guess I am confused by the question?
I don't understand why they should not be allowed to share a bed if they want.
I was never close to my brother so we never did this. And my child is a only child, so nothing there, maybe I am missing something?
I would think this is fine.
If they BOTH like it, no big deal. My son and daughter shared ocassionally. There is a 3 yr age difference (he's older). She is very upset by lightening storms (I was the same way as a child, so I REALLY understand this). She will ask to sleep with him if the weather is really bad at bedtime. He likes it when she does MOST of the time. They call it a "sleep over night", much like having a friend over to spend the night! They giggle, and laugh, and it is hard to get them to go to sleep sometimes for a little bit. Nowadays, they tend to lay in bed and both read a book (they each get a Diary of a Wimpy Kid book - we have them all)... and show each other the parts they think are funniest.
No big deal...as long as they BOTH enjoy it.
Why wouldn't this be OK? Aren't siblings supposed to be there for each other? My kids are 8 & 4 and they love to sleep together occasionally. They do sleep at opposite ends of the bed when they do, but they love it. As long as they are both OK with it, leave them alone.
Why should it not be allowed? Who plants these ideas in people?
Of course it is okay! There will come a day they won't want to have any to do w/ each other. Let them continue bonding until that day comes.
I think it is fine. And sort of sweet!
Why wouldn't this be a great idea?
why on earth not?
my grown boys still occasionally bunk together if we need a spare bed.
i hate how sex-obsessed some parents have become.
khairete
S.
My little brother and I use to do the same thing. He is 5 years younger than me. Its a sibling thing I guess. You should be happy they are close like that.
It is sweet my daughters are 6 and 4 and love sleeping in the the same so they can protect each other. It is sweet and I am just glad they are close.
I agree with the mom's who said it's fine... my 7 and 5 year old daughters frequently sleep in the same bed, especially on the weekends... they call them 'sleepovers'. Until one of them expresses the need for their own personal space, I think it's sweet!!
Of course it's fine. If it's time to sleep and they aren't, that's a discipline issue. But bed-sharing is great, builds a bond, and adds comfort. I don't think it matters about the gender of the children either - I mean, REALLY. Let's not get all upset about an occasional sensationalized news story that we deny our kids the benefits of a sibling.
Why should it NOT be allowed? If they enjoy it, why not, they are brothers and let them enjoy each other's company. That's bonding! Don't get thrown off because they are boys.
I can't believe some people and where their minds go...
My sons are 14 and 10. I have more pictures than I care to count of them sharing a bed from the time my youngest was taken out of the crib. Now if it happens it tends to be when they are watching tv together and fall asleep that way. Nothing wrong with it if they want to do it. Plus side makes for trips to other places a bit easier if you are limited on sleeping space. LOL
Yup, I'm with the other answers you've gotten so far. My kids are 18 months apart, 10 & 11 years old, older boy & younger girl. They do not sleep together because they're constantly fighting, but if they wanted to it wouldn't be even a slightly big deal. So, even with a boy & girl, the chances of them wanting to 'play dr.' as one Mama posted, I mean, come on, seriously??
Nothing wrong with brothers sleeping together. If it works for them, it works for the family.
M
What in the world would be wrong with this? As long as they are both sleeping and they are both ok with sleeping in the same bed. I don't get it, why would it be a problem?
That is sweet that your boys can sleep together and rely on each other for comfort. I would allow this before I allow them into my bed. Once a child starts sleeping in the parents bed it is hard to get them out. Mom and SO need their own bed and space for a healthy relationship. As you see I do not believe in any type of co-sleeping. Have you tried getting a queen bed for them to share instead of two twin beds?
I don't see why not, as long as they are getting along ok. For a long time, DH and I had a 2 bedroom apartment and when his boys came on the weekend they had to share a full-sized bed in the 2nd bedroom. This was from ages 5 and 6 to ages 9 and 10. After we bought our first house, they still had to share a bedroom but we got bunk beds for them. Until then they really enjoyed talking and being silly together, although some nights one or the other would come out 4 or 5 times complaining about his brother doing this or doing that. I finally started telling them that if they both stayed in bed and neither one came out complaining about the other, they would each get a dollar from me the next morning. By the time we bought the house, they were happy to not have to sleep in the same bed anymore.
As long as they like it, I see no problem.
Hi, C.:
There is no issue with the children sleeping together unless you have an issue.
Your issues with sleeping with your sister may not be an experience your boys are having.
What is your underlying issue of the boys sleeping together?
Just wondering.
D.
I used to have terrible night terrors, afterwards I would climb in my sisters bed. She graciously let me, if they are both willing then it's fine. If one starts complaining then maybe you should step in.
They are both boys I see no problem. My 8 & 9 yr old daughter's share the same bed alot they act like they are twins at times. Now if they was boy/ girl sharing the same bed maybe if they have reached the stage they are trying to play Dr but otherwise if they sleep better that way let them
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As long as you don't mind the being silly, etc. It sounds fine.
