I recently decided to switch my ob/gyn because my current doctor has been a bully for years and everything has always been his way. He has wanted me to have a procedure done which I felt was unnecessary. I even went to my general practitioner for a second opinion and he agreed that the procedure is not necessary right now. I have an appointment to meet with the new doctor next week. I am very nervous to meet this new doctor because I just had so many bad experiences in the past with my other doctor. Has anyone had the experience of having to switch doctors and any advice on how to stay calm the day of my appointment with this new doctor is greatly appreciated. Thanks
Did you ever have a teacher in school you didn't like? Hopefully you went to the first day the next year with an attitude of, "This year is going to be better." That's the kind of attitude you need. The fact that this is an OB/GYN is not relevant. You need to get psyched at convince yourself that this is a fresh start and this will be better than the last time.
And if it's not, it's not. No buggy, just try again :-)
Stay positive!!!
GO to your new ob with a healthy attitude that you are starting over. Be positive!! If you go in with the attitude that it will be the same or worse, then your negativity will pick up on everything and you won't be able to see the positive aspects of the new Dr.
Keep in mind, no one is MAKING you do anything. You can get advice all day long but in the end it is your decision to have a procedure or not. I don't see it as being a bully because the term bully is thrown around so loosely. The Dr does not tie you down and do a procedure, right?
Focus on the new and if this new Dr. and you don't click, no big deal.. move on until you find one you do trust. Word of mouth works wonders with Dr's. Ask your friends, neighbors and whomever else for references and go from there to find your match.
I switched mid pregnancy because the female Dr I had missed some important details that were going on in my body. I ended up in the ER and my now Dr I've had 20 yrs happened to be the on call Dr that day and we clicked. He saved my life. No hard feelings toward the other Dr. She did visit me when I was in the hospital and she left that practice on good terms. Her idea was to move into cosmetic procedures vs delivering babies.
A doctor is a partner in your health, not the boss.
Your ex-doc seems to have control issues from what you're describing.
When you go in and meet your new doc, explain that you are switching because the old doc was pushy and didn't listen, then explain that you view doctors are someone to guide you in your health decisions- not make them for you. If he/she agrees, you've got a winner. If she/he starts defending the ex-doc, keep moving.
Best of luck!
I have switched obs a couple times once because I moved and I know I will never find another like him he was amazing. The one I had before my current I didn't really like her at all. But I like my current one he is very good. Just stay calm and know you do not have to stay with him if you are not happy
