I hear you, birth control is such a hard thing to figure out! I, too, have had several friends who got pregnant using the Nuva Ring. I used Ortho Tri Cyclen early in my marriage and didn't love it because of the side effects. You might want to look into the latex-free condoms that were mentioned in another post - that might be just the right solution. Also, if you have more regular periods now, you can keep track of when you ovulate so that you can even have some time each month that you don't use the condom (because you're not fertile!). I would recommend against any kind of IUD, but that's because I have a moral problem with a contraceptive that also could be an abortifacient, which basically means that it could end the pregnancy after the egg is fertilized (by not allowing the fertilized egg to implant into the uterine lining). Since I believe that life begins at conception, this would mean that the IUD causes an abortion of the pregnancy. Do your research, and see if this is something you want to avoid, too. Good luck!