Nudes?

Teen no longer gets any phone... or if it is absolutely essential for him to have a phone, bust him down to a basic flip phone with no camera, no texting, and no internet capability.

Great advice already.

I would assess the difference between if the teen actually participated, meaning they took the inappropriate pics, if they forwarded the pics, if they engaged in, were involved in some part, then yes, immediate confiscation.

If the pics showed up inadvertently, like in a group instagram chat, then you need to have a huge conversation about the mentality of people who choose to engage in that and the problem with group mentality and pressure of friends forcing others to conform.

You know your teen best and should have a clear knowledge of how honest or dishonest he tends to be about this stuff. I mean, what teenage boy doesn't want to see some nudity? I'd be worried he wasn't normal or human if he denied ever wanting to see nudity, or have some basic curiosity in the female body. But there is a difference in being the instigator of taking and forwarding nude pictures of others, versus the receiver.

Immediate confiscation of the phone. Period. They don't need a phone. If they need a ride home, they can go to the school office and use the office land line. If this inconveniences the parent in terms of checking in with kids, too bad.

Complete supervision of teens when using the computer. They can use in a public place (kitchen table, downstairs office, etc.) only.

Just because they do it a lot doesn't mean it's okay.

I'd also talk to the School Resource Officer (police officer) or a member of the police department and see if there are programs planned or underway to educate kids about what constitutes possession of pornography (adult or child, depending on whether the teen in the picture is under 16). If there's nothing formal, I'd honestly haul my kid downtown to chat with an officer about the repercussions. These images are out there FOREVER. They don't really get that.

If these are not photos or sexting materials of peers, but are inappropriate websites, I'd have some serious talks about images of women, how degrading they are, discuss why the kids think these are appealing, titillating, entertaining, amusing, etc.

Bottom line, I'd say that a kid who is not mature enough to follow instructions or understand the gravity are not old enough to have the technology. I'd also consider taking away other privileges such as the car (if they are driving age). This HAS to be a big fat inconvenience to them or they won't take you seriously.

If they hang out with their friends after school (activities, friends' houses, sleepovers, sports, etc.), assume that they will use the friends' phones. So you may have to curtail some social events or activities, depending on the severity of the offense and the seriousness with which the kid addresses your concerns.

My guiding point would be the number of times I've warned my kid and whether he did it anyway. If it was one half-assed discussion on my part, I might be more lenient than if I'd been really consistent and insistent. I would not, however, find it acceptable for my kid to blow me off with "everyone does it" and a series of "Aww, Mom…" eye rolls.

And if the kids have pictures of each other, I'd inform the other parents. If there's a big group, it might be worth a parental get-together, perhaps with the school resource officer. No kidding. Nothing makes more of an impression on a group that official involvement and a sort of public awareness that we are all now compromised because of what all our kids have done.

If MY name is on the account, and I'M the one paying the bill, then it's MY phone, not hers. She uses MY phone under MY rules, or I no longer allow her the use of MY phone.

If a teen is using a phone inappropriately then that teen is obviously not mature enough to be trusted with a phone. Appropriate punishment would be to lose the phone.

I love Mum4ever's advice and would handle it exactly like that.

It is ILLEGAL in some states to sext.

People's lives have been ruined by this.

http://nobullying.com/is-sexting-illegal-maybe-in-your-st...

Don't know if the cops do any presentations at school, but I'd look into that, and I'd have your kid with you when you talk to the police about doing this kind of presentation.

And look into the most BASIC phone possible. Disable the camera, or have the people do it. If you feel your teen needs a phone for emergencies, than make it THE most basic thing ever. Once they can prove they're responsible in decision making, maybe they can earn a "fun" phone back.

If YOU Pay the phone bills, it's YOUR phone and you can feel NO guilt in taking it away.

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All electronics gone with a long discussion about this being a possible police matter.

All tech with internet gone. If they need a phone for calling home after a sport or school activity, then a super low tech basic phone that only has the ability to make calls (if it's possible).

Then a LONG lecture on the Laws and total disrespect they have shown toward the other person, their family, themselves and our family.

It's two-fold.

When my SS was scoping out inappropriate content on Google when he was 12 it wasn't just about saying, "No." It was why. It was some man to man talks with his father. It was changing the router filters, but also acknowledging that he could find that info elsewhere so he needed to know how we felt and why we felt that way.

My child would lose her phone for a while, but more importantly I would talk to her about the long-term ramifications of 1. sending such images to someone and 2. what happens when/if (often when) their image gets passed around. There are many levels of concern, including legal ones for herself and her recipient. I've already told her never trust that anything is truly private. Snapchat? The snap might only last a short time, but a screenshot is forever...(for example). Like Patricia pointed out, it can ruin your life.

Mum4ever's advice is spot on, I couldn't have said it better myself.

I'd talk to my kid, the punishment would depend a lot on the answers I got.

In my eyes there is not a great way to handle this because the best way to handle it is to talk about it before there is temptation and make them not interested.

phone gone and computer for homework only and in the family room with supervision.