C.R.
You have a right not to be happy, E.. What does hubby think he is doing??? he needs to grow up and be a husband to you and a dad to those little boys. I'd tell him a to be a role model not an embarrassment.
It sounds like you need some counseling but he also souds like he has way to much free time on his hands.
The drinking will be his (and your) downfall eventually.
It will drive a wedge so dep and so wide between you that your skin will crawl when you hear him drop ice in a glass.
I stayed with my husband a drinker of 30+ years for 35 years before having enough and calling it quits. I felt like a doormat. Oddly enough, my children now grown, encoraged me to leave him. I had no idea how the drinking had affected all of them over the years. The girls still talk with him the boys don't. It is his loss.
I worry about you young moms and dealing with all of this.
Again, IF he will go to counseling, I would try that. He does NOT NEED to stay out over night. What does he think this is?? 12 years old and a sleepover event? Of course he is fooling around and you are giving him the opportunity by not making him stand up to the plate and be a husband and responsible father. You and your sons deserve better than that.
Sorry about the straightforward talk. I feel that works best.
HE has a lot to lose here. Even if you don't stay together, he will have to pay you child support until those boys are 18 years old. DON'T put up with his youthful behavior another day. Always tell yourself that YOU are a worthy person and he is being disrespectful to his son's mother by acting this way. IT is the only way to look at this situation.
Good luck, E.. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Cathy
Woodstock, GA