Not Sure I Did the Right Thing.....

Hi L.:
I don't believe you were out of line,or should have any regrets. Requesting that your daughter be called by her proper name,is not asking a lot. Its understandable,that at her young age,you'd want her to become familiar with being addressed by the name you GAVE her.If you were tactful and polite in how you handled it,I wouldn't fear any hurt feelings,as a result of speaking up.(Lily) is a short enough title,for them to use endearingly.I wish you and your darlin daughter the best.J. M

I think you did the right thing. It's your child; you named her, you have the right to determine what she is called. My nephew is named Matthew. He's not Matt or Matty, he's Matthew.

No one can pronounce my name, so I'm fine with people calling me Dee, but I hate being called DeeDee. Your daughter may develop her own preferences as she grows up.

Just realize you can't control what people call her when you're not around, but hopefully if you make your preferences known, they'll stick to Lily when you're around.

You are not out of line at all! The school should have that question on an enrollment packet (what name does your child go by?) If they don't maybe you should suggest that they ask to prevent this from happening to another family. You are right for protecting your childs name.

Hi L., I don't think you did the wrong thing, The name Lilian Grace is a very beautiful name, sounds old fashion. I think it is OK for certain special people in our lives to call us by a nick name, for example i had a little girl in my daycare named Olivia, her family called her Liv for short, we called her olly, her parents through it was cute, we named our only daughter Samantha, and everyone calls hwer Sam, it botherd me when she was little, but it got on, her brothers, her friends, even her dad and I sometimes call her Sam, she never minded. She's your daughter, so if something bothers you, I think it was OK to express it. J. L.

Yes, of course, you did the right thing. Most schools ask about nicknames. As a fellow preschool teacher, I would prefer parents to talk about something like that in person instead of writing a note. It's very important to have open dialogue between your daughters caregivers.

Perfectly fine. You did the right thing.
Bear in mind, that you will probably need to repeat yourself about this as your daughter enters elementary school too....until at least your daughter gets old enough to mention it herself. So meanwhile, you can teach her how to do so and communicate it. That is what we taught my daughter.

My friend is named Kathleen. ALL her life people called her "Kat" and "Kath." She HATED it. Not to mention, an ex boyfriend of hers (a jerk) always called her "Kat." So it just makes her cringe! So, she's been, even now, having to 'correct' people about it. But then once she does so, people usually honor her request.

In the future, each year she enters a new class/grade, I would just from the beginning tell the Teacher this, and how your daughter is to be called. NO nicknames of chopping her name in half.

All the best,
Susan

You did the right thing. It was in your heart and true. You didn't wait until it got out of hand. It is a big deal and you handled it like a champ. Don't feel bad at all about it, she's your little love.

You named her and you couldn't be wrong...but, we have an ongoing family dispute because my 47 year old sister named Patricia was nicknamed "Pat" all her life and she hates it. She prefers to be called "Patti", but a lot of the family will not do it. At first it was out of habit, now I believe it is out of spite. So, as a payback, she called the other 45 year old sister nicknamed "Gerrie" by her real name Geraldine. Six months later, I get to convey message back and forth because they won't speak to eachother. Believe it or not, it is happening.